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Is Your Inner Child Keeping You Trapped in a Bad Relationship?
5 Questions to Ask Yourself; The Answers May Help Set You Free
It happens when we see politicians repeatedly make the same self-destructive mistakes - think former legislator Anthony Weiner’s repeated sexting scandals.
Or we hear friends complain repeatedly about the horrible job they’re “stuck” in.
Or, in a rare glimmer of insight, we wonder why we’re still hanging on to a “romance” that makes us miserable.
“When people seem mentally healthy and it looks like they could easily make a change that would make them happier, we’re absolutely baffled by why they don’t,” says Steven Jay Fogel (www.StevenJayFogel.com), author of the new book Your Mind Is What Your Brain Does for a Living (March 2014).
When you’re the “stuck” person, the why may seem more evident: You’re scared, or you think, “If I just keep doing the right things, it will all work out.”
Either way, it’s likely they—and you—aren’t making a conscious choice at all, Fogel says.
“We think we’re making decisions based on the present, but we’re usually not. We tend to operate on automatic pilot, responding to situations based on the coping strategies and thinking patterns we developed in childhood,” he says.
“When those strategies are dysfunctional, we just keep repeating the same behaviors over and over again.”
The good news is that we can learn to recognize that “default” thinking and rewire the brain to change it, says Fogel.
The cofounder of Westwood Financial Corp., one of the nation’s leading private commercial real estate owners, Fogel draws from decades of neuroscience and mindfulness research to offer solutions.
What can you do to get yourself unstuck? Get started, he suggests, by answering these questions—in writing!
About Steven Jay Fogel: Steve Fogel is a principal and cofounder of Westwood Financial Corp., one of the largest owner-operators of retail properties in the United States. He is a licensed real estate broker and past chairman of the California Arts Council. Your Mind Is What Your Brain Does for a Living, publishing March 11, 2014, is his third book. He is also the author of My Mind Is Not Always My Friend: A Guide for How to Not Get in Your Own Way (Fresh River Press, 2010) and The Yes-I-Can Guide to Mastering Real Estate (Times Books-Random House).
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