|What Can You Say to Help Someone with Cancer?|
|News Releases - Health, Medicine & Nutrition|
|Written by Ginny Grimsley|
|Tuesday, 29 October 2013 08:25|
Psychotherapist Therapist Shares Her Patients’ 4 Favorite Boosts
This year alone, 238,000 men will be diagnosed with new cases of prostate cancer, the most common incidence of the disease. More than 234,580 men and women will learn they have breast cancer, the second most common today, according to the National Cancer Institute.
All told, about 13.7 million Americans are living with cancer or a history of cancer.*
Chances are, you know one or more of them.
“Friends, family, co-workers – they can all play an important role in helping a cancer patient’s recovery simply by providing emotional support,” says pioneering cancer psychotherapist Dr. Niki Barr, author of “Emotional Wellness, The Other Half of Treating Cancer,” (canceremotionalwellbeing.com)
After a diagnosis of cancer, people have a greater need for social support, which has been shown to influence health outcomes, according to a National Institutes of Health report. Of the nine types of social support, the report says emotional support is among the most important.
“Even if you’re not among the person’s closest friends or family, you can help far more than you imagine simply by being encouraging and supportive,” says Barr, who works exclusively with cancer patients and their loved ones.
“I understand people don’t always know what to say to someone who’s just been diagnosed or is in the midst of treatments and yes, sometimes they do say the wrong thing,” Barr says. “I remind my patients often to refuse to listen to cancer ‘horror stories,’ so please, don’t tell those!”
While everyone is different, Barr says that she’s found a few things her patients consistently say benefit them:
When a person who’s going through what may be the most difficult, stressful event of their lives knows that you care, it makes a difference, Barr says.
“If you’re truly at a loss for words, it never hurts to simply say, ‘I’m thinking about you.”
*as of Jan. 1, 2012; National Cancer Institute
About Niki Barr, Ph.D. (@NikiBarrPhD)
Niki Barr, Ph.D. founded a pioneering psychotherapy practice dedicated to working with cancer patients in all stages of the disease, along with their family members, caregivers and friends. In her book, she describes an "emotional wellness toolbox" patients can put together with effective and simple strategies, ready to use at any time, for helping them move forward through cancer. Dr. Barr is a dynamic and popular speaker, sharing her insights with cancer patients and clinicians across the nation.
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