Certified Life Coach Explains How to Circumnavigate Your Own Worst Enemy

Human beings are capable of a rich inner life that, sadly, seems to elude so many, says dating and life coach Deborah Downey.

"I doubt that most of us fully realize just how much worry, doubt and fear we experience on a daily basis; it seems to me that acknowledging this default setting and finding an alternative for well-being should be among our top priorities," says Downey, author of "What Are You Worried About!" (http://www.coachdeborahdowney.com/).

"Too often, we are inclined toward trying to be something that, upon closer inspection, isn't what we actually want. Much of this can be attributed to our egos, which persistently tug at our motivations."

Women who think they have to be married and men who are afraid of revealing their true feelings are just two examples of ego-driven ideas that lead us away from personal fulfillment, she says.

Downey, who found romance and happiness later in life despite living with multiple sclerosis for 25 years, says we can have a more worry-free existence. She explains a few ideas for overriding your ego's default settings.

•  "I strive for imperfection and I'm always a winner."
"Most people laugh when I say this," she says, because society is forever challenging us to compete and compare ourselves with others to assess our own value. Striving for imperfection is a reminder that we don't have to drive ourselves crazy with unattainable goals.

"I notice most of us have hidden rules that we carry from childhood that really don't help us as adults," she says. "There isn't any way to be perfect for myself or for any other person who has ever lived. To strive for something unattainable is to strive for failure. Ultimately, allowing for you to be who you are is, I find, liberating and more conducive to overall success in life."

•  A lesson from Spanx founder and self-made billionaire Sara Blakely ... Once upon a time Blakely was just another struggling entrepreneur. In addition to her blockbuster underwear product and her drive, she was armed with a profound idea inherited from her father, an advocate of acclaimed life coach Wayne Dyer. The idea: Don't be afraid to fail big, because it means you put the effort forth on something that you care about, even though the effort was outside of your comfort zone.

"Appreciating one's daily and weekly failures is not a means of encouraging it; rather, it's a way of learning from failure and developing thicker skin so that you aren't paralyzed into future inactivity due to fear of failure or the unknown," she says.

•  "We no longer pursue the tormentor."
"When my mentor coach first said this to me over the phone, I asked her to repeat it three times," Downey says.

Tormentors are all-knowing, all-controlling, arrogant to the tenth degree, super-demanding and impossible to please. Because her parents always demanded the best and never praised Downey as a child, she sought love from sociopaths and narcissists as an adult.

"The clarity of how I brought so much pain into my life by pursuing tormentors was mind-blowing," she says. "Of course, one's own ego can play the very same role."

About Deborah Downey

Deborah Downey's experience spans 25 years of recovery in various 12-step programs around the country. Holding certifications as a professional life coach and as a chemical dependency counselor, Downey has dealt with addiction in its various forms, both as the child of alcoholic parents and as a confidant for others. In her self-help book, "What Are You Worried About!" (http://www.coachdeborahdowney.com/), Downey, who has multiple sclerosis, details a proactive approach to training one's mind to think positive.

Powered lower limb prosthetics hold promise for improving the mobility of amputees, but errors in the technology may also cause some users to stumble or fall. New research examines exactly what happens when these technologies fail, with the goal of developing a new generation of more robust powered prostheses.

"My work has focused on developing technology that translates electrical signals in human muscle into signals that control powered prosthetic limbs - such as decoding muscle signals to tell a prosthetic leg that it needs to walk forward or step up onto a staircase," says Dr. Helen Huang, senior author of a paper on the work and an associate professor in the joint biomedical engineering program at North Carolina State University and the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.

"But sometimes this 'decoding' technology makes mistakes, such as thinking someone wants to climb a step when he doesn't," says Fan Zhang, lead author of the paper and a Ph.D. student in the joint biomedical engineering program. "This is a problem, because we don't want to put users at risk of stumbling or falling."

Huang's team set out to understand exactly what happens to users of powered prosthetic legs when there's an error in the decoding technology.

"We not only want to improve the decoding accuracy, but determine which errors are important and which have little or no impact on users," Huang says. "Understanding the problem is an important step in finding ways to make these prostheses more reliable."

To address the issue, the researchers had study subjects use a customized prosthetic device that was programmed to make errors. This was done in a lab setting that allowed Huang's team to monitor each user's balance and biomechanics. Users were also asked how stable they felt during each trial.

The researchers found that some errors were so insignificant that users didn't even notice them - particularly errors that were short in duration or that occurred when a user's weight was not being applied to the prosthetic leg.

But errors that lasted longer, or that occurred when a user's weight was on the prosthetic limb, were more noticeable. The researchers also determined that critical, or especially noticeable, errors were also characterized by a large "mechanical work change," meaning the prosthetic limb thought it had to do significantly more or less work than the user intended.

"One of the things we'll be doing as we move forward with this work is seek ways to limit that mechanical work change," Huang says.

"Any system that involves a human interface will have occasional errors," Huang notes. "But we think we can find ways to make those errors effectively insignificant."

The paper, "Effects of Locomotion Mode Recognition Errors on Volitional Control of Powered Above-Knee Prostheses," is published in early view online in the journal IEEE Transactions on Neural Systems and Rehabilitation Engineering. The paper was co-authored by Ming Liu, a laboratory manager in the joint biomedical engineering program. The work was supported by the National Science Foundation under grants number 1406750 and 1361549, by the Department of Defense under grant number W81XWH-09-2-0020, and by the National Institute on Disability and Rehabilitation Research under grant number H133G130308.

Doctors Advise Additional Rest to Ensure Full Recovery

November 20, 2014.  New York City...For immediate release

With enormous regret, Cher has announced the cancellation of all remaining dates on her Dressed To Kill (D2K) concert tour.

Beginning in March, the multi-award-winning superstar completed 49 sold out concerts to unanimous rave reviews before taking a scheduled break in July.

Shortly before returning to the road in September, she was felled by an infection that affected her kidney function.

While her progress has been consistent, Cher's doctors have advised her to take more time to ensure a complete and total recovery.

Commented Cher: "I am totally devastated. Nothing like this has ever happened to me.  I cannot apologize enough to all the fans who bought tickets.  I'm so proud of this show. It is my best ever. I sincerely hope that we can come back again next year and finish what we started."

 

Ticket holders may obtain a refund at point of purchase.
Milner Placed on Reserve

MOLINE, Ill. (November 20, 2014) - Goaltender John Curry has been assigned to the Quad City Mallards by the American Hockey League's Iowa Wild and the Mallards have placed goaltender Parker Milner on reserve, the Mallards announced today.

Curry, 30, has posted a 3.72 goals against average and .885 save percentage while going 0-4-0 in five games with Iowa this season. 

"John is here for a stint to get some playing time before going back to Iowa," said Mallards coach and general manager Terry Ruskowski.  "We look forward to having him here because he's a character guy and an excellent goaltender."

Curry played two National Hockey League games for the Minnesota Wild last season- going 1-0-0 with a 3.00 goals against average and .930 save percentage- and has played six career NHL games for the Wild and Pittsburgh Penguins.  The 5' 11", 185-pound Shorewood, Minnesota, native has gone 3-2-0 and turned in a 3.54 goals against average and .893 save percentage in those six games.

Curry last season divided his time among Minnesota, Iowa and the ECHL's Orlando Solar Bears.  In 19 AHL games he was 7-9-2 with a 2.62 goals against average, a .920 save percentage and one shutout.  He ran up a record of 10-2-0 with Orlando on a 2.66 goals against average and .917 save percentage.

Curry has spent the bulk of his eight-year professional career in the AHL.  He has gone 103-63-7 with a 2.51 goals against average, a .907 save percentage and ten shutouts in 183 American League games with the Wilkes-Barre/Scranton Penguins, Houston Aeros and Wild.   As a rookie he backstopped Wilkes-Barre/Scranton to a berth in the 2008 AHL Calder Cup finals.

After spending his first four seasons in the Penguins' organization Curry moved abroad to spend the 2011-12 campaign in Germany with the Hamburg Freezers.  He returned to North America in the Wild system the following year.  Curry's first season under the Wild umbrella saw him go 17-11-2 with a 2.80 goals against average and .910 save percentage in 32 games with the Solar Bears and also play one game for Houston.

Before turning pro Curry was a standout at Boston University, where he went 59-29-15 with a 2.07 goals against average, a .923 save percentage and 13 shutouts in 107 games over four seasons.  As a senior in 2006-07, he was named a finalist for the Hobey Baker award and earned First Team All-American honors after going 17-10-8 with a 2.01 goals against average, a .921 save percentage and seven shutouts.  The All-American selection was Curry's second in as many seasons- he was a second team choice as a junior while helping the Terriers to the 2006 Hockey East regular season and tournament titles.  Curry also helped propel B.U. to three straight NCAA tournament appearances.

Milner, 24, has gone 3-2-0 with a 2.77 goals against average and a .912 save percentage in five games with the Mallards this season.  Last night Milner stopped 22 shots in regulation and overtime and made four saves in the shootout as the Mallards came from behind for a 4-3 shootout win over Tulsa Oilers.

The 6' 1", 197-pound Pittsburgh native returned to the Mallards from Iowa Sunday after serving as the Wild's back-up goaltender in three games following a November 11 call-up.

The Mallards return to action tomorrow night at 7:05 p.m. on home ice against the Rapid City Rush.  Tomorrow evening also brings the return of $1 Dog/$1 Beer Night presented by 97X and MetroLINK.  Fans can enjoy $1 hot dogs and beers from iWireless Center concession stands during all Friday home games.  97X will follow in the spirit of the evening by presenting hot dog-themed intermission entertainment.

Tickets for all remaining Mallards regular season home games- including tomorrow night's tilt- are on sale now at the iWireless Center box office, Ticketmaster outlets, ticketmaster.com and Ticketmaster charge-by-phone toll free at 1-800-745-3000.  The box office is open weekdays from 10:00 a.m. to 5:30 p.m., Saturdays from 10 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. and game days from 10:00 a.m. until the start of the second period.  Tickets are available for $10, $16, $20 and $28.

CHICAGO - Governor Pat Quinn today made the following statement regarding President Barack Obama's executive action on immigration:

"President Obama today took a necessary first step in fixing our broken immigration system. His plan will give hope to families who live in constant fear of separation.

"Hardworking immigrants from around the world came together to build our country and our state. I commend President Obama for showing compassion and understanding to millions of individuals stuck in a heartbreaking situation.

"Congress must follow President Obama's lead and pass comprehensive immigration reform."

 

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Washington, D.C. - Congressman Dave Loebsack released the following statement this evening in response to the President's action on immigration.

"There is universal agreement that our immigration system is broken and is in need of reforming. It isn't working for families, businesses or rural America. But for nearly two years, House Republicans led by John Boehner have had a chance to address this issue and have refused to put any comprehensive, bipartisan legislation on the floor. At the same time, bipartisan Senate-passed legislation, while not perfect, awaits action in the House. It is unfortunate that Speaker Boehner has catered to the demands of the extreme Tea Party members in his party and has simply refused to act.

"I have concerns about the President acting without Congressional approval and would have preferred that Congress address this issue. But it has become increasingly clear that the extreme Tea Party faction will not allow any vote on immigration legislation. It is my hope that this action by the President will provide the impetus necessary to spur the House to act on legislation that secures our borders, enforces the rule of law and ensures accountability for those who came here illegally while not tearing apart families who have been here for many years. I am committed to working with anyone on either side of the aisle to advance a serious proposal that will finally fix our broken immigration system."

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WASHINGTON, D.C. – Senator Tom Harkin (D-IA) today announced that the University of Iowa and Iowa Central Community College have been awarded a total of $790,350 to apply communication technologies for rural healthcare delivery. The funding comes from the U.S. Department of Agriculture's (USDA) Distance Learning and Telemedicine (DLT) Grant Program.  Harkin is a senior member of the Senate agriculture committee as well as the panel that funds rural development initiatives.

"Residents of all communities - both rural and urban - deserve access to quality medical care.  By using new technology, we are able to provide people in rural areas with the specialty medical care that many urban residents take for granted," said Harkin.  "I congratulate the University of Iowa and Iowa Central Community College for receiving this competitive funding."

The DLT Grant Program works to provide access to education, training and health care resources in rural areas.  Funding is provided to increase educational opportunities and expand health care.

Details of the funding are as follows:

  • Iowa Central Community College: $291,377 to provide career & technical education, special education support services, media & technology services, a variety of instructional services and professional  and leadership development courses to 600 students, 266 teachers and 150 community members via an interactive distance learning videoconferencing system. Iowa counties that will benefit include : Buena Vista, Calhoun, Greene, Hamilton, Humboldt, Pocahontas, Sac, Webster, and Wright.
  • University of Iowa: $498,973 to provide telemedicine videoconferencing services for Family Medicine at 40 rural sites, for Child Health Specialty Clinics at 9 rural sites and for Geriatric Outreach at 15 rural sites. Iowa counties that will benefit include : Allamakee, Appanoose, Benton, Bremer, Buchanan, Buena Vista, Cass, Carroll, Cerro Gordo, Cherokee, Clay, Clayton, Decatur, Delaware, Des Moines, Dickinson, Emmett, Fayette, Fremont, Hardin, Henry, Iowa, Jackson, Jefferson, Johnson, Keokuk, Kossuth, Linn, Louisa, Mahaska, Marion, Montgomery, Page, Plymouth, Polk, Poweshiek, Scott, Shelby, Union, Van Buren, Washington, Wayne, Winneshiek, and Wright.
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(DES MOINES) -Today, Governor Terry E. Branstad approved an emergency proclamation suspending the regulatory provisions pertaining to hours of service for drivers of commercial motor vehicles transporting diesel products.

Pipeline and refining outages affecting the supply of diesel products, coupled with the abrupt and early drop in temperatures, have resulted in low inventories of diesel products in Iowa and the upper Midwest. The Governor's emergency proclamation suspends regulatory provisions of the Iowa Code pertaining to hours of service for crews and drivers delivering diesel products.

The proclamation is as follows:

WHEREAS, because of pipeline and refining outages affecting the supply of diesel products in Iowa and throughout the upper midwest, coupled with an abrupt and early drop in temperatures throughout the state, the people of the State of Iowa are faced with extremely low inventories of diesel products; and

WHEREAS, this shortage of diesel products has a serious impact on the flow of critical goods and services throughout the State of Iowa; and

WHEREAS, the limited suspension of certain hours of service regulations for drivers of commercial motor vehicles transporting diesel products in our state will increase the amount of those products transported throughout the State of Iowa, thereby reducing the damaging effects of this shortage; and

WHEREAS, these conditions threaten the peace, health, and safety of the citizens of the State of Iowa and accordingly provide legal justification for the issuance of a Proclamation of a State of Disaster Emergency pursuant to Iowa Code § 29C.6 (1).

NOW, THEREFORE, I, TERRY E. BRANSTAD, Governor of the State of Iowa, by the power and authority vested in me by the Iowa Constitution Art. IV, §§ 1, 8 and Iowa Code § 29C.6 (1), and all other applicable laws, do hereby proclaim a State of Disaster Emergency for the entire state of Iowa and do hereby ORDER and DIRECT the following:

SECTION One. I temporarily suspend the regulatory provisions of Iowa Code § 321.449 pertaining to hours of service for crews and drivers delivering diesel products during the duration of this disaster, subject to these conditions:

A.     Nothing contained in this Proclamation shall be construed as an exemption from the controlled substances and alcohol use and testing requirements under 49 CFR Part 382, the commercial drivers' license requirements under 49 CFR Part 383, the financial responsibility requirements of 49 CFR Part 387, or any other portion of the Code of Federal Regulations not specifically identified in this proclamation.

B.     No motor carrier operating under the terms of this proclamation shall require or allow a fatigued or ill driver to operate a motor vehicle. A driver who informs a carrier that he or she needs immediate rest shall be given at least ten consecutive hours off duty before the driver is required to return to service.

C.    Upon the request of a driver, a commercial motor carrier operating under this proclamation must give a driver at least thirty-four (34) consecutive hours off when the driver has been on duty for more than seventy (70) hours during any eight consecutive days.

D.    Motor carriers that have an out-of-service order in effect may not take advantage of the relief from regulations that this declaration provides under title 49 CFR § 390.23.

E.     Upon the expiration of the effective date of this Proclamation, or when a driver has been relieved of all duty and responsibility to provide direct assistance to the emergency effort, a driver that has had at least thirty-four (34) consecutive hours off duty shall be permitted to start his or her on-duty status hours and 60/70 hour clock at zero.

Iowa Code § 29C.6 (6).

SECTION Two. This state of disaster emergency shall be effective at 12:01 a.m. on November 21, 2014, shall continue for fourteen (14) days, and shall expire on December 5, 2014, at 11:59 p.m., unless sooner terminated or extended in writing by me. Iowa Code § 29C.6(1).

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All Black Hawk College locations and facilities will be closed Nov. 27-29 for the Thanksgiving holiday. Saturday classes will NOT be conducted Nov. 29. Classes will resume Monday, Dec. 1.

Students are reminded that they can register online for minimester and Spring 2015 classes during Thanksgiving break. Minimester classes begin Monday, Dec. 22, and Spring 2015 classes begin Tuesday, Jan. 20.

The Spring 2015 class schedule is available at www.bhc.edu/schedules. Registration information is available at www.bhc.edu/register.

DES MOINES, IA (11/20/2014)(readMedia)-- State Treasurer Michael L. Fitzgerald's upcoming eBay auction just might have that unique gift for someone special on your holiday list. "If you are still looking for a unique gift after you have done your Black Friday shopping, check out our eBay auction starting on Cyber Monday," Fitzgerald encouraged. "Many items are one-of-a-kind or collectibles that were turned over in unclaimed safe deposit boxes." Visit our Facebook page to get a sneak peek of the upcoming auction items.

The auction will begin on Cyber Monday, Dec 1, and will close on Dec 8. Some of the treasures in this online auction include a 1900 $5 Gold Liberty coin XF; 14 karat two-tone antique ladies' ring with eight single cut diamonds and one euro cut diamond; and a men's Hamilton pocket watch. All items included in the auction were reported to the state treasurer as unclaimed property by financial institutions across the state. The auction proceeds are held for the rightful owners until they come forward. Photos, letters and other personal memorabilia will not be included in the auction.

Unclaimed property refers to money and other assets held by financial institutions, businesses and other organizations that have lost contact with the owner for a specific period of time. Common forms of unclaimed property include checking and saving accounts, court deposits, stocks, dividends, life insurance policies, utility deposits, refunds, rebates, wages, and abandoned safe deposit boxes.

On the day of the auction, interested bidders may visit the state treasurer's eBay auction at http://myworld.ebay.com/ia.unclaimed.property.

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