Morose-Colored Glasses

I’m a woman in my 20s. Some stuff in my life was going really wrong, and I got depressed. I didn’t tell people, but it had to be obvious. I distanced myself from my group of girlfriends, meaning I missed birthday parties, didn’t respond to group texts, and was overall not a great friend.Still, I did what I could, like taking a friend for a spa day after missing her birthday the week before. Weeks later, I learned she was still harboring resentment that I had missed her birthday. Don’t I deserve a bit of a break?

– Feeling Better Now

On the day of your friend’s birthday, you felt like quite the party animal - if, by “party animal,” we mean “rat lying cold and dead in the corner of the cage.”