If you don't follow baseball, you may be unaware of the controversy simmering around Dodgers rookie Yasiel Puig.  He came up from the minors less than two months ago, has played on a level comparable only to that of the early Joe DiMaggio, and has singlehandedly (okay, with both hands) lifted the Dodgers from the ignominy of overpaid underperformer status into credible pennant contenders.  Fans came within inches of writing him onto the All-Star team by online ballot.

Puig has played fewer than 40 games in the Major Leagues.  The Dodgers, who had a lot of money, now have a lot less, because they agreed to pay him $42 million over seven years.

Old school baseball players and their managers take offense to an All-Star designation for a player who has barely gotten his uniform sweaty.  But the people want Puig, and there's still an outside chance that they'll have him, when the All-Star Game takes place Tuesday in New York.

Baseball traditionalists believe that All-Star status is something one earns over time.  Casual fans couldn't care less about a player's body of work; they're just interested in stars, which Puig, at least for the short term, now is.  Sports talk radio commentators recognize that baseball has a phenomenon in Puig and that the All-Star game is a marketing showcase.  Failing to include Puig, therefore, would be an unpardonable offense.

Puig had the good fortune to come of age in the age of American Idol, when you can become a star literally overnight.  You don't have to spend years paying dues; you just go viral.   Consider the difference between yesterday's Frank Sinatra and today's Psy.  Sinatra toured with big bands for years before he hit; Psy, the Korean voice of Gangnam Style (two billion YouTube hits and counting) became a planetary legend with one video.  If extraterrestrials exist, they are probably on Alpha Centauri doing the horse dance and singing, "Hey, sexy lady!"

And so it is in sports.  LeBron got his $60 million deal with Nike before he stepped on an NBA court.  Andrew Luck signed to quarterback the Indianapolis Colts for $22 million prior to throwing a single NFL pass.  And now Yasiel Puig has parlayed eight undeniably great weeks into eight figures.

The veteran players may or may not begrudge Puig the money; they definitely resent his potential All-Star status.  That's because they come from a world where what you do over a long period of time defines who you are.  Puig, baseball's flavor of the month, leaves a sour taste in their mouths.

In baseball, hitters and pitchers "solve" one another.  Meaning that tendencies are analyzed and baseball experts do everything that can to drag outliers back to the mean.  In the sport's language, the goal is to create a "book" on a player: identify his weaknesses and capitalize on them.  The fastball hitter may have trouble with a slider; a particular pitcher may struggle to keep the ball down.  Once word gets out, it's much harder for a phenom to keep up that initial momentum.

This may or may not happen with Puig.  He could be the next Henry Aaron.  Or not.   He could also run into serious trouble.  If you listened to sports talk radio the week before the Dodgers elevated Puig to the majors, the topic was the fact that he had enormous trouble coping with authority.  Not quite "cancer in the clubhouse" material, but the verdict among baseball men was that he was too immature to handle the pressures of the big leagues.

So now they're putting him front and center at the All-Star Game.

There's something to be said for the old way of doing things, where you had to earn your stripes, pay your dues, work your way to the top.  That way allows people to make their mistakes in private, before all eyes are upon them.  Those of us who are a little older and come from that world are grateful that YouTube didn't exist when we were in our twenties or Facebook when we were in our teens.  We're very happy, thank you, that the mistakes we made in our callow years aren't on our permanent technological record.

I have no problem with Puig playing in the All-Star Game; he's definitely a star and baseball is the world's worst sport at marketing itself.  We've just seen what happens to people, especially those in the public eye, who receive too much too soon.  From Aaron Hernandez (New England Patriot accused of homicide) to Lindsey Lohan (actress accused of everything), it often turns out that sudden success is no gift from the gods.

I wish Yasiel Puig the greatest of success, personally and professionally, not that he's ever heard of me or cares about receiving my blessing.  I want him to stay on the baseball diamond and not the police blotter and enjoy his newfound celebrity.

It used to be that it took ten years to become an overnight success.  In today's world, it can take ten years to get over having been one.

Moline, IL - Memorial Christian Church would like to invite the community to a Human Trafficking Presentation at 1624 Ave of the Cities Moline, IL.  This event will be Wednesday July 17th, 2013 from 7pm - 8pm.

Maggie Tinsman from Braking Traffik will be presenting.  Their mission is Stopping Sexual & Labor Exploitation in the QCA.   Human Trafficking is modern day slavery.  Each year in the United States an estimated 100,000-300,000 American children are at risk of falling victim to sex trafficking.  

Though difficult to imagine, human trafficking exists right here in the Quad Cities- on our streets and on the Internet. 

To learn more about Human Trafficking please join us for a FREE presentation and refreshments will be available.  


TIME:  7pm - 8pm

WHEN:  Wednesday, July 17

WHERE:  1624 Ave of the Cities Moline, Illinois 61265

WHY:  To gain knowledge about Human Trafficking in the Quad Cities

Despite Major Advances, Women's Counselor Says Same-
Gender Infighting among Enduring Problems

It's safe to say that women are on the ascendancy on many accounts:

• Throughout the next decade, women will be the beneficiaries of the largest transference of wealth in the history of the United States and control two thirds of consumer wealth in the country.

• Women are now the majority of the workforce in the U.S. and fill the majority of managerial positions.

• For every two men who earn a college degree, three women will get theirs.

"It's not just college and professional women who are transforming society - and the movement is not simply money-based - because I've witnessed women developing a dramatically new point of view on how we view ourselves," says Xandra "Sunny" Moon, author of "The Power of the Titz...a woman's journey back to her self" (www.sunnymoonspowerworld.com). "I am one of those women."

As a self-described "liberated, 18-wheeler-driving, 40-plus babe," Moon meets a countless number of women who she counsels. Like her, they've suffered physical and emotional abuse as young women. And, like her, after raising a family and enduring a deeply unsatisfying lifestyle, they are climbing out of depression and getting back in touch with the woman they've always wanted to be, she says.

"But, as women, we continue to run into several obstacles; while a woman's role has evolved, much of society has not," Moon says. She lists some of those obstacles:

• Other women: While there certainly is a sisterhood among many women, Moon occasionally runs into some who are fearful, lacking in confidence and, therefore, judgmental. "I've been accused of trying to steal husbands because I embrace and show off positive physical traits such as my large breasts, and I encourage all women to take charge of their beauty," she says. "I can assure you that stealing someone's husband has never been on my to-do list; I'm too happy with my life partner and second husband, Lee Abzu, who coauthored my book."

• Domestic abuse: In the U.S., a woman is beaten every nine seconds; most domestic violence victims are women - 85 percent; it's estimated that 1.3 million women are beaten each year - a number that could be much higher since most abuse is not reported to police. In some cases, emotional abuse can be worse because it works like a "psychic prison," Moon says, keeping women locked in awful relationships year after year.

• Human Trafficking: According to the U.S. Department of State, 80 percent of transnational victims are women and girls, 70 percent of which are supplied to the commercial sex industry. With human trafficking being a $32 billion industry, the problem will be an enduring one into the future, even as women in modernized countries earn key roles in changing the world.

• The other half of the population ... Some intellectuals argue that a modern, post-industrial civilization is simply better suited for women. They argue men tend to be more shiftless, inclined to take risks and, overall, living in a society in which excessive testosterone is a liability. "But it doesn't have to be that way," says Abzu, who adds his outside-the-box relationship with Moon exemplifies an ability to adapt to a changing world. "Women have always been beautiful, which means they've always had power, so it's not a huge leap to think of women as having significant sway in how the world operates." Some say that women have taken a page or two from a male-dominated world in order to get ahead; soon, however, it may be that men are the ones who will need to learn from opposite-gender leaders in society, he says.

About Xandra "Sunny" Moon

Xandra "Sunny" Moon is a survivor who came into her own after age 40. As a younger woman, she endured rape, unlawful imprisonment, mental and emotional abuse, and divorce. She has worked 14 years as a truck driver, during which she has spoken with thousands of women near or at midlife. After raising her four children, she continued her education at Idaho State University and eventually married her second husband and soul mate, Lee Abzu. She now counsels women who are seeking rebirth.

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DES MOINES, IA (07/15/2013)(readMedia)-- The world-famous Iowa State Fair Butter Cow will share the spotlight this year with the majestic Lincoln Highway. The sculptures will be on display in the Agriculture Building's 40 degree cooler throughout the Fair, August 8-18.

This year's companion sculptures honor an Iowa landmark's anniversary with a replica of the Lincoln Highway Bridge in Tama and a relief sculpture of Abraham Lincoln. As the nation celebrates the 150th anniversary of Lincoln's Emancipation Proclamation and Gettysburg Address, Iowa's Lincoln Highway is also reaching a milestone. One of the first transcontinental highways for automobiles in the U.S., the 100-year-old highway stretches from New York to San Francisco.

In Iowa, the Lincoln Highway was built by the collective strength of small towns throughout the highway's route. Residents promoted the road, raised funds and contributed labor. To celebrate this labor of love's 100 year anniversary drivers traveled from New York to San Francisco, retracing the winding path.

In addition to the beloved butter sculptures, the Ag Building offers a variety of events and exhibits. Returning this year is the Seed Survivor exhibit where kids learn about plants and what makes them grow with this interactive display. Young Fairgoers can also explore the AgVenture Discovery Trail's 10 stops and discover the wide array of Iowa's agricultural commodities ranging from livestock production to wind energy to viticulture (grapes).

Don't miss other great exhibits and demonstrations including giant pumpkins, jumbo vegetables, Discovery Garden, daily stage presentations and more!

"Nothing Compares" to the 2013 Iowa State Fair, August 8-18. The Fairgrounds are located at East 30th and East University Avenue, just 10 minutes east of downtown Des Moines. For more information, call 800/545-FAIR or visit www.iowastatefair.org.

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Moline, IL. (July 15, 2013) ? There's a new light shining in America's Heartland! Trinity Broadcasting Network, the world's largest religious broadcaster and America's favorite faith-and-family channel, announced the launch of WMWC-TV Channel 53, a new full-power Christian television station covering the four Illinois and Iowa communities known as the Quad Cities: Moline and Rock Island, Illinois on the western banks of the Mississippi River, and Davenport and Bettendorf, Iowa to the east.

"We're excited to welcome Channel 53 to TBN's ever-growing broadcast family," said TBN founder and President, Dr. Paul Crouch. "With the addition of WMWC to our nationwide lineup of full-power stations, over a half-million potential viewers will now have 24-hour access to the life-giving Christian programming that has been TBN's hallmark for the past forty years."

Station manager Tammy Robinson said that while presently TBN is the sole network broadcasting on WMWC, she expects that in the near future Channel 53 will begin multi-casting TBN's four other premier faith-and-family networks: the Church Channel, the JCTV youth network, TBN's Enlace Spanish-language affiliate, and the Smile of a Child children's channel.

Robinson noted that local Quad Cities residents are excited to have a Christian TV station located right in their community. "While TBN has been available in the area through cable and satellite service, there are many folks who either can't afford that service, or live in rural areas where it's not available," she said. "We're already getting letters and calls from some of these individuals and families, thanking us for making TBN available for free over the air."

The network is presently working on construction of a new studio facility for Channel 53 in Moline, Illinois, which will enhance the station's ability to produce programming like Joy in Our Town and a local version of TBN's signature music and ministry program Praise the Lord. "Local pastors have told me that there's been a shortage of good, solid family programming on TV in the area," said Robinson. "Many of our church leaders are really anticipating the positive spiritual impact TBN will have on these communities."

Tim Bowman, senior pastor of Calvary Church of the Quad Cities and president of the Quad Cities Association of Evangelicals, said he and other local clergy are looking forward to working closely with TBN and WMWC on special programming and community initiatives. "It's so encouraging as a pastor to know that Trinity Broadcasting Network sensed a leading of the Lord to purchase a television station and to build a studio in the Quad Cities area to do local programming," he said. "They have committed to share the Gospel of Jesus Christ and to help promote life-giving organizations within our community."

TBN Vice President Matthew Crouch noted that with the combination of cable and satellite coverage, along with its 37 full-power digital stations in communities around the nation, TBN now reaches 98 percent of America's homes with 24-hour faith-and-family TV. "When you add our iTBN.org online portal and our exclusive TBN viewing app available on iPhones, iPads, and smart phones, you begin to understand the meaning of our slogan 'TBN Everywhere' ? that in reality, there is literally nowhere in the inhabited world TBN does not reach."

He added that "this commitment to cover the earth with the hope of the Gospel has been TBN's motivation for the past forty years, and it's what continues to guide all we do."

To find out more about the 24 (and growing) global members of the Trinity Broadcasting Family of Networks, visit us online at www.tbn.org.

Introducing New Hours!!!

As of today, July 15, 2013, our museum hours will be changing. 

Monday: Closed
Tuesday: 10:30 a.m. - 3:30 p.m.
Wednesday: 10:30 a.m. - 3:30 p.m.
Thursday: 10:30 a.m. - 3:30 p.m.
Friday: 10:30 a.m. - 3:30 p.m.
Saturday: 10:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m.
Sunday: 10:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m.

Stop in to see our Sigmund Freud exhibit through August!

(309) 788-0806

700 22nd Street, Rock Island, Illinois. It was formerly a Christian Science church, designed by architect William C. Jones of Chicago in the Palladian style, it was built between 1914-1915. Its exterior walls are of brick covered by Bedford limestone.

Peaceful River Trading Co. is hosting a gallery opening for artist and crafter, Tianna Herrick and Midnight Perfumery. The event will take place Thursday, July 25th from 4:00pm to 7:00pm at 302 North Salina Street in McCausland, Iowa.

McCausland, IA /July 15th, 2013 - Peaceful River Trading Co. is hosting a gallery opening for artist and crafter, Tianna Herrick and Midnight Perfumery. The event will take place Thursday, July 25th from 4:00pm to 7:00pm at 302 North Salina Street in McCausland, Iowa.

Midnight Perfumery has been creating handmade body, hand & face soaps for over four years and her product line includes several varieties of scented body and home accessories. "My passion for making soaps began when my son's skin really improved for the first time in his short life. I began Midnight Perfumery roughly a year later.  We chose this name for our line, because I work on these soaps after my kids are in bed, many nights drifting well-past midnight." says Herrick.  "Choosing a technique, design, color pattern, scent and function of a soap is just fun...blending so many scents makes me feel like a perfumist The final soap design is usually inspired by the colors a scent makes me think of...sometimes this is a straight-forward choice and other times I choose to take some creative license.  Customers appreciate these soaps because they not only look beautiful, but perform wonderfully. I like to call them 'affordable luxuries," added Herrick.

Peaceful River Trading Co. Owner, Sheila Bosworth, is looking forward to the gallery opening, "Herrick's cold process soaps and scrubs are all natural and handmade. We're excited to have the opportunity to feature local creations such as hers."  Peaceful River Trading Co. offers a place for local artists and crafters to display and sell their creations.

Peaceful River brings visitors back to a simpler time and is housed in a beautiful, circa-1916 bank building, formerly the home of McCausland State Bank. They carry many items from arts and crafts to antiques, gifts, and collectibles. Peaceful River Trading Co. is open from 10am to 5pm Wednesday through Saturday and 11am to 4pm on Sundays.  McCausland is located about 20 miles northeast of Davenport, just off Utica Ridge Road on F33 and 5 minutes north of Scott County Park.  Explore Peaceful River Trading Co. at www.peacefulrivertradingco.com.

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State Historical Museum exhibition explores history of cycling in Iowa and RAGBRAI

(DES MOINES) - Lt. Governor Kim Reynolds today previewed and announced the "Riding Through History" exhibition about the history of cycling in Iowa and "Register's Annual Great Bicycle Ride Across Iowa" opens Friday at the State Historical Museum of Iowa.

"Riding Through History" is a 3,000-square-foot exhibition that showcases artifacts, stories, photos and videos about the cycling experience in Iowa and highlights RAGBRAI as one of Iowa's iconic traditions, largest cultural events and economic drivers. The exhibition includes nearly 200 artifacts from the Museum's permanent collection and from cycling enthusiasts across the country, and tells the stories of communities and individuals from RAGBRAI's past.

"With more and more people cycling today as a recreational activity and as their primary mode of transportation, this exhibition provides a terrific opportunity to learn more about its history in Iowa," said Reynolds. "It also showcases RAGBRAI as one of Iowa's largest cultural events and economic drivers. It's a terrific exhibition and I encourage RAGBRAI riders and Iowans to see it while they are in Des Moines."

"The successful development of this exhibition could not have been completed without the strong support of our exhibit partners Register Media, RAGBRAI and the Iowa Department of Transportation," said Susan Kloewer, director of the State Historical Museum of Iowa. "Their support, along with our advisory committee members, has been invaluable in telling the history of cycling in Iowa and RAGBRAI."

"RAGBRAI's co-founder John Karras has said the event is a love affair between bicycle riders and the state of Iowa," RAGBRAI Director T.J. Juskiewicz said. "RAGBRAI is the oldest, largest and longest recreational bicycle tour that attracts cyclists from all over the world seeking to enjoy that great Iowa hospitality. We don't have scenic beaches or mountain vistas, but the state of Iowa delivers 'homemade goodness' you can't find anywhere else on the planet."

The exhibition offers visitors a wide range of artifacts and stories from Iowa cycling history and RAGBRAI, including:

  • a Thomas Pickering Velocipede purchased by Iowan Wesley Redhead in 1869
  • a Schwinn Super Sport Van Zimmer purchase with wedding gift money and rode on RAGBRAI in 1974
  • Chris Cakes - the story of Lorin Christiansen of Pocahontas who developed a full-scale catering business across numerous states out of RAGBRAI
  • Mr. Pork Chop - the story of Paul Bernhard of Bancroft who became known as "Mr. Pork Chop" after developing a 1.5-inch-thick pork chop that became known as the Iowa Chop.
  • Clarence Pickard - the story of Clarence Pickard pedaled across Iowa wearing a Styrofoam pith helmet and wool clothing at 83 years old.

The exhibition also showcases the advances made in cycling equipment and technology, and includes safety tips from the Iowa Department of Transportation.

"From assistance for trails to helping riders plan their routes through our interactive bike map, the Iowa DOT is proud to play a part in making the biking experience safe and convenient for all Iowans," said Paul Trombino, III, director of the Iowa Department of Transportation. "This exhibit will give Iowans the chance to learn the history behind what makes our state's biking history unique."

In addition, RAGBRAI riders, friends and all Iowans are invited to "Pedalpalooza" 9 a.m.-5 p.m. Tuesday, July 23, 2013 at the State Historical Museum of Iowa as the RAGBRAI route takes riders through Des Moines.

Pedalpalooza will feature live music concerts by Decoy at 11 a.m. and The Nadas at 2 p.m., with Chad Elliott, Bonita Crow, Andy Fleming and David Zollo performing live at various times on the E. Grand & 6th Stage. Food and beverages will be available for purchase from Baratta's Catering and visitors can purchase a "Riding Through History" 16-oz collector cup for only $5; includes one free beer or soft drink and $2 refills until 5 p.m. Other family-friendly events and activities will be offered throughout the day, including chair massages from East Village Spa and music by Dan Kelley DJ Service.

"Pedalpalooza" event partners are Register Media, RAGBRAI©, Iowa Department of Transportation, Iowa Historical Foundation, Des Moines Bicycle Collective, Dan Kelley DJ Service, FastSigns, Baratta's, East Village Spa, The Nadas and Decoy.

Admission to the State Historical Museum and the "Pedalpalooza" celebration is free. Bike parking available at the Museum. The State Historical Museum is at 600 E. Locust Street in Des Moines. Hours are 9 a.m.-4:30 p.m. Monday-Saturday and Noon-4:30 p.m. Sunday. Admission is free and open to the public. Visit www.ridingthroughhistory.org for more information.

 

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The Iowa Department of Cultural Affairs is responsible for developing the state's interest in the areas of the arts, history and other cultural matters with the advice and assistance from its two divisions: the State Historical Society of Iowa and the Iowa Arts Council. DCA preserves, researches, interprets and promotes an awareness and understanding of local, state and regional history and stimulates and encourages the study and presentation of the performing and fine arts and public interest and participation in them. It implements tourism-related art and history projects as directed by the General Assembly and designs a comprehensive, statewide, long-range plan with the assistance of the Iowa Arts Council to develop the arts in Iowa. More information about DCA is available at www.culturalaffairs.org.

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Last week, the American Red Cross announced an emergency need for blood and platelet donations. Eligible donors of all blood types, especially O negative, A negative and B negative, are still needed to help ensure a sufficient blood supply for patients.

Additional ways to help

Spread the word about the urgent need for blood donations via social media outlets like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Use the hashtag #GiveNow.

Participate in the Summer of Stories campaign. Visit redcrossblood.org/summer to watch videos of people whose lives have been touched by blood donors, then share your own story.

Learn more about Red Cross Blood Services in your community and how blood donors help save lives at redcrossblood.org.

PEORIA, Ill. (July 15, 2013) – The American Red Cross has an urgent need for blood donors of all types, especially O negative, A negative and B negative, as fewer donations than expected were given in the first half of summer. Every day donations come up short, less potentially lifesaving blood is available for patients in need.

Type O negative blood is universal and can be transfused to anyone who needs blood. Types A negative and B negative can be transfused to both Rh positive or negative patients. Blood products can be used for cancer patients, trauma victims, organ transplant recipients, premature babies, sickle cell disease patients and more.

Hospital patients are counting on generous volunteer donors to step up and give now to help ensure a sufficient blood supply is available all summer long. Visit redcrossblood.org or call 1-800-RED CROSS for more information and to make an appointment.

Upcoming blood donation opportunities:

Carroll County

Aug. 1 from 11 a.m. to 3 pm at United Methodist Church, 1901 State Route 84 in Thomson, Ill.

Aug. 15 from 1:30-6:30 pm at American Legion Hall, 221 Calvert St. in Chadwick, Ill.

Clinton County

Aug. 2 from 1-5 pm at YWCA, 317 Seventh Ave. South in Clinton, Iowa

Aug. 9 from 1-6 pm at DeWitt Community Center, 512 10th St. in DeWitt, Iowa

Henry County

Aug. 5 from 2-6:30 pm at Sacred Heart Church, 108 N. Main in Annawan, Ill.

Aug. 14 from 2-6 pm at First Christian Church, 105 Dwight St. in Kewanee, Ill.

Mercer County

Aug. 7 from 2:30-6:30 pm at United Methodist Church, 15th and 18th Avenue in Viola, Ill.

Whiteside County

Aug. 1 from 9:45 a.m. to 4 pm at CGH Medical Center, 100 E. LeFevre Road in Sterling, Ill.

Aug. 6 from 8-11 am at River Bend Senior Center, 912 Fourth St. in Fulton, Ill.

Aug. 7 from 2-6 pm at American Red Cross, 112 W. Second St. in Rock Falls, Ill.

Aug. 12 from 11:30 a.m. to 5:30 pm at Prophetstown-Lyndon-Tampico CUSD 3, 79 Grove St. in Prophetstown, Ill.

Aug. 13 from 1-5:15 pm at River Bend Senior Center, 912 Fourth St. in Fulton, Ill.

Aug. 14 from 3-7 pm at Abiding Word Church, 806 E. Lynn Blvd. in Sterling, Ill.

Aug. 14 from 10 a.m. to 2 pm at American Red Cross, 112 W. Second St. in Rock Falls, Ill.

Aug. 15 from 1:30-6 pm at Carlson Acupuncture & Chiropractic, 2317 E. Lincolnway in Sterling, Ill.

How to donate blood

Simply call 1-800-RED CROSS (1-800-733-2767) or visit redcrossblood.org to make an appointment or for more information. All blood types are needed to ensure a reliable supply for patients. A blood donor card or driver's license or two other forms of identification are required at check-in. Individuals who are 17 years of age (16 with parental consent in some states), weigh at least 110 pounds and are in generally good health may be eligible to donate blood. High school students and other donors 18 years of age and younger also have to meet certain height and weight requirements.

About the American Red Cross

The American Red Cross shelters, feeds and provides emotional support to victims of disasters; supplies about 40 percent of the nation's blood; teaches skills that save lives; provides international humanitarian aid; and supports military members and their families. The Red Cross is a not-for-profit organization that depends on volunteers and the generosity of the American public to perform its mission. The Red Cross is supported in part through generous financial donations from the United Way. For more information, please visit redcross.org or visit us on Twitter at @RedCross.

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Widow Offers Tips for Thriving Without a Partner

For everyone - even people in an ideal relationship with a lifelong partner - there will be times when you are alone, says serial entrepreneur Susan Alpert.

For 46 years, Alpert lived the dream with her husband, Larry; they had a happy home, children and thriving careers. When Larry died, Susan experienced the ultimate aloneness, fearing her happiness would never return.

"No, it wasn't easy to recover from the loss of a loving partner at my side, but I did, and learned how to be very happy on my own. It's possible at any stage of life," says Alpert, author of "Driving Solo," (susanalpertconsulting.com).

"I've spoken to those who have been divorced or separated from their spouse or they just haven't met that special someone yet and they, too, feel a sustained loss -similar to a death. But, as I've learned, going solo can be an unexpected and fulfilling experience.

Alpert reviews important markers along her journey to finding happiness again:

• Taking  Control: Whether you're widowed or emerging from a breakup, you have to reevaluate and assess where you are and take steps to move forward. If you were married and you've been off your game for a while - you've neglected a stack of mail, been out of touch with friends, etc. - start making progress one task at a time. If you've been left with papers and bills to handle, create a system, perhaps a digitized one to restore order. If your girlfriend or boyfriend left you, it's time to recognize and respect your self worth. Consider getting into good physical shape with an improved diet and a schedule for training. You might even consider a professional reboot - anything that gets you focused on something constructive can help you move on. Remember, you're responsible for yourself. It's you who has to take action.

• Ease the Throttle: While it's essential to take proactive measures, it's not wise to try to do it all at once. In some areas you should throttle back. Aim for achieving a regular sleep schedule - stress often impacts one's ability to sleep well, and current research is finding the heightened negative side effects of insufficient sleep. Also, take a break while awake, you'll think more clearly, have more energy and be prepared for the next steps, whatever they may be.  - Take a deep breath, get outdoors. Even a short walk is an excellent stress-reliever while providing moderate exercise. We all know that it's important to eat balanced meals, but you're human and that's not always possible. You may be tempted to indulge in junk food, alcohol and other drugs while in emotional pain, but this ultimately makes life harder. Hint: try to include different colored items on your plate, that's an easy way to eat well.

• If you're grieving, know that eventually, you'll feel better: The initial stages of her grieving were new and terrible. "People said the feeling wouldn't last forever. My response? - 'That isn't doing me any good right now, is it?' They hadn't lost Larry, I did," she says. Immediately, Alpert knew things would never be "normal" again - life would be different. It was going to be a long and painful process. She had to go through the experience of loss. Until then, she could expect to yo-yo between emotions, her therapist said, "In time, I got my health and strength back - I found a reason to get out of bed each morning and although unexpected and different, I have a wonderful, exciting and joyful life today," she says.

About Susan Alpert

Susan Alpert is the creator of "Chaos to Control," a program through which she coaches the bereaved on business aspects of death and other major life changes. Alpert - a successful businesswoman, educator and entrepreneur who has run several multimillion dollar companies - created the program after losing her husband of 46 years. Alpert is the founder of several companies, numerous focus groups and most recently her own consulting firm. Alpert holds a Master's degree in education and psychology, and has extensive experience in the fields of negotiation, finance, international services and business. She is a frequent guest speaker and has been featured on countless radio and television programs.

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