What Worked in the Old Days Still Works Today, Says
Award-Winning Author

Have you ever wondered how members of the same family, from aunts, uncles and cousins to siblings born of the same parents and raised in the same household, can be so very different?

"We see it in every family - Grandma's so easygoing and her son be so strict; Mom's a zany beatnik and her sister's a corporate v.p. Anyone with brothers and sisters will even see it within their own sibling group," says Lynn Shafer, award-winning author of "Stories from Brooklyn: Ancient Voices, Ritual Chants," (www.jo-anbooks.com), a timeless look at the interplay of disparate members of an extended 1940s family.

A ground-breaking study by researcher Robert Plomin in the 1980s is still the preeminent resource for psychologists seeking to understand personality diversity within families.  Even among siblings, the study showed, while physical traits may be very similar, personalities can be as varied as random individuals from the general population.

"Expand that to the extended family, including the vast non-traditional extended families we see today, and you're likely to see more differences than similarities," says Shafer. "Still, many of these families are tight-knit and cohesive. They serve as an inspirational example for humanity as a whole. Despite a union of very different people, we can all love, learn and grow together."

How can you build a strong family? Shafer shares timeless tips:

• Establish a solid foundation based on shared values. It's no secret that very religious families tend to be close-knit and strong. Why? "Because religion provides a structured means of sharing beliefs and values, a process that begins in infancy, when babies are taken to worship services and undergo the rituals that mark their membership in the religion," Shafer says.  While fewer American families are religion-focused than were in decades past, they can all still strive to emphasize the importance of family values and their role in reuniting every family member. Creating rituals and traditions are one way to emphasize values.

• Make your family history a story to celebrate. The story about how brave Uncle Joe once rescued a dog from a well; the singing talents of the three great aunts who performed at county fairs as little girls; the one-cheek dimple that is the family hallmark -- these are the stories that make your family special. "It's not about memorizing the family tree, but about ensuring children know that they are part of something greater than themselves - and that is both a privilege and a responsibility," Shafer says. A child who is constantly reminded, with fondness, that she's the spitting image of wonderful Aunt Bessie will feel a bond with Aunt Bessie - even if she's bee gone for decades.

• Commit to attending, or hosting, family gatherings. Often, the places for sharing those stories are family gatherings - weddings and funerals, holidays and anniversaries. "It may be a question of the chicken or the egg," Shafer says. "Strong families tend to have many shared family stories. Strong families also tend to gather together frequently - and that's where those stories are most often shared." Family gatherings are also a good place for family members with very different personalities to learn to find common ground and practice getting along for the sake of everyone at the special event.  "Imagine what a more peaceful world it would be if we were all forced to play nicely with our obnoxious cousin as children!" Shafer says.

About Lynn Shafer

Lynn Shafer is a Brooklyn native and a graduate of Brooklyn College. A veteran English teacher in New York City schools, she has utilized oral history to create a body of work that can be read aloud. The story "Ancient Voices, Ritual Chants" was runner-up in the fiction category of the Pirate's Alley Faulkner Society annual competition in 1995 for previously unpublished work, portions of which she has read aloud at the prestigious 92 Street Y in Manhattan. She has also written and performed poetry at the Truro Center for the Arts on Cape Cod, where she attended workshops for many years. "Stories from Brooklyn" is published by Jo-An Books - "Books that are making history." Find it at www.jo-anbooks.com and anywhere books are sold.

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

 

Video can be found here.

 

This week the Senate is considering legislation that would repeal an expected cut in the cost-of living adjustment for military retired pay for retirees who are under age 62.

This cut was included in the federal budget bill that passed late last year.  No VA benefits are affected one way or the other.  But, retirement benefits for these retirees were partially cut in the budget agreement. This has caused quite an uproar, with many voicing concerns that this was not the right decision. Those voicing concern supported legislation to repeal it.

The issue is finding other savings somewhere to pay for the restoration of these benefits.  We need to find other places to save so that we don't add $5.7 billion to the deficit.

I support restoring the cost-of-living adjustment.  These retirees have honorably served their country.  They were made a promise years ago when they joined the military.  Changing the rules in the middle of the game like this is simply unfair.  We need to work to find other places within the budget to save so that we can keep our promise to these military retirees.

In a weekly video address, Senator Grassley discusses legislation that the Senate is considering that would repeal an expected cut in the cost-of living adjustment for military retired pay for retirees who are under age 62.

Prepared Floor Statement of Senator Chuck Grassley of Iowa

Ranking Member, Senate Judiciary Committee

On the nomination of Kevin Techau

to be United States Attorney for the Northern District of Iowa

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Mr. President,

I'd like to share a few words of support of Kevin Techau, to be United States Attorney for the Northern District of Iowa.  Mr. Techau received his undergraduate degree from the University of Iowa in 1981, and his J.D. from the University of Iowa in 1984.  Mr. Techau also has a distinguished military career.  He served in the United States Air Force as a Judge Advocate from 1985 until 1992.  While serving in the base legal office he provided legal counsel on a broad array of issues including federal laws, employment law, medical malpractice claims and criminal prosecution.

As a circuit defense counsel, he served as lead attorney in major felony cases in European and Eastern United States Circuits representing United States Air Force airmen in court-martial cases involving charges brought under the Uniform Code of Military Justice. Mr. Techau joined the Iowa National Guard in 1993 and served until 2011.

In 1992, Mr. Techau joined the firm of Grefe & Sidney in Des Moines, Iowa.  As an associate attorney, the primary focus of his practice was in civil litigation.  From 1996 until 1999, Mr. Techau served as a federal public defender for Iowa.  His practice as a public defender was both at the trial and appellate level, and he has tried cases in the U.S. federal courts for the Northern and Southern Districts of Iowa and the Eighth Circuit Court of Appeals.  Mr. Techau was appointed to the position of Director of Inspections and Appeals for Iowa in 1999, and in 2002 was appointed as Commissioner of Public Safety for Iowa.

Since 2007, he has been Associate General Counsel at American Equity Investment Life Insurance Company.  There he handles litigation management for the company.  Throughout his career, Mr. Techau has demonstrated his commitment to serving the people of Iowa and the United States.

Finally, let me just add that I've known the Techau family for decades and I know Mr. Techau personally.  He's even been a running partner of mine from time to time.  He is a man of fine character and commitment.  I believe he will serve as United States Attorney with distinction and honor.  I urge my colleagues to vote "yes" on this nomination.

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Veteran Teacher Shares Tips for Motivating Them to Tackle the Hard Stuff

By now, it has become apparent to academics, administrators, parents and teachers that, in general, boys are underperforming in school, says Edmond J. Dixon, Ph.D, a veteran educator and international expert who offers enhanced teaching techniques for boys.

And it may get worse, he says.

It will take some creativity to teach some elements of Common Core, the educational initiative set to be implemented throughout most of the United States, in a way that's conducive to how most boys best learn, Dixon says.

Common Core has been criticized by educators and other experts as demanding standards that are static, arbitrary and generally antithetical to creativity and innovation. Yet initial results in Kentucky, the first state to use the program, have been positive. The state's graduation rate increased 6 percent from 2010 to 2013, and the percentage of college-ready students increased 20 percent.

"Any parent or teacher who wants a boy to be successful with Common Core must understand two crucial ideas: motivated engagement and discretionary effort," says Dixon, who has more than three decades experience as a teacher, is a parent of boys, and is the author of "Helping Boys Learn: Six Secrets for Your Son's Success in School," (HelpingBoysLearn.com), which features tailored editions for parents and teachers.

Because the new curriculum is designed to improve critical thinking, which requires a deep understanding of the material, boys must be both motivated and deeply engaged to learn, he says. That's what it will take for them to independently put in the necessary hard work involved in learning - discretionary effort - without nagging, he says.

"Only by doing this will they be able to meet the new learning requirements; we are already seeing the negative consequences of not doing this with boys, and I fear it will just get worse," says Dixon, adding that his approach inspires a boy's motivated engagement.

He offers two real-life examples that reveal volumes about how the male brain works:

•   Boys need a worthy challenge: Larry Bird and "Magic" Johnson, both NBA greats, who have also become great friends, are eager to talk about their former rivalry. Both say that they simply would not have had the same legendary career without that individual competition; it made them better. When Johnson left the NBA, Bird said he just wasn't as interested in the game.

The male brain responds to a challenge it deem worthy. A student, who daydreams during algebra class and appears lazy, may also pour attention and effort into mastering a skateboarding trick. Constructing a challenge for the male student will do wonders to engage his learning.

•   Boys crave legitimacy. Think about all the colleges in the United States; now imagine trying to craft an NFL playoff-style system that fairly selects the No.1 college football team. Does it seem impossible? Aren't there too many teams?

The NCAA has been trying to figure out a system for establishing a legitimate No. 1 team for decades, and it's finally going to implement one next season. Whether or not it'll work, the effort put into such an endeavor has been considerable. Why so much time and energy for a game?

Because the male brain craves legitimacy; boys will only agree that something is meaningful or valuable if there is a valid process for establishing that value. In the classroom, helping boys understand why and how learning a concept, skill or calculation has value for them will go a long way toward motivating them to learn.

About Dr. Edmond J. Dixon

A pioneer in the field of cognitive-kinesthetics for learning, Edmond J. Dixon, Ph.D., is a human development specialist with more than 30 years of experience as a teacher, administrator, writer, researcher - and parent of boys. He is the founder of the KEEN Differentiated Learning Group, an organization dedicated to helping struggling learners, and the creator of KEEN 5X, a series of strategies for classroom engagement and learning that were have been used with more than 50,000 students and teachers. His previous books, "KEEN For Learning" and "Literacy Through Drama," have been used by educators to improve classroom learning. A dynamic and popular presenter, he has spoken throughout North America on education and human development topics. 

CHICAGO - Lt. Governor Sheila Simon was honored by the Abolition Institute on Wednesday for her efforts seeking clemency for Illinois abolitionists convicted for their fight against slavery. The Aichana Abeid Boilil Awards ceremony coincides with President Abraham Lincoln's birthday.

Despite a strong antislavery movement in the state, both Illinois and federal law prohibited the harboring or assisting of runaway slaves in free states. Simon's office worked with state historians to identify three Illinois men who were convicted of violating slavery laws while working on the Underground Railroad in Quincy and Jacksonville. She has petitioned the state for their pardons.

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Businesswoman Provides Tips for Being Your Own CEO

Entrepreneurship is alive and well in the United States with hundreds of thousands of new businesses opening each year.

More than 22 million of our small businesses are one-man (or woman) shops, and the number of those ringing up more than $1 million in sales is growing - it was nearly 27,000 in 2011, the most recent U.S. Census statistics available.

"Americans are very savvy business people, and for more and more of us, the rewards of running our own business trounce the risks associated with stepping out on our own," says Lynda Chervil, a longtime businesswoman, thought leader and author of the new book, "Fool's Return," (http://lyndachervil.com/).

"Imagine what would happen if we applied our CEO mindset and skills to our own lives? Sometimes, it takes a boss to tell you to do something in order for it to get done. Now's the time to become that boss."

Chervil shares tips for doing that:

• Embrace change, renewal and rebirth. There is no shortage of opportunity to notice change in life. Don't be afraid to use milestones to provide yourself with an "employer's review" on how you're doing in your own life. What are you doing well, what needs work and how are you going to improve? Create a detailed plan on how you expect to accomplish your goals. Give yourself a timeline, such as losing 20 pounds by summer or increasing your net worth by next year.

• You're your own best entrepreneur. Part of being a good boss means trying out enterprising ideas; it's the mediocre bosses who are content with the status quo. You don't have to start with something wild. Instead, follow through on ideas that are good for you, such as buying healthy food that you haven't yet tried. Look up recipes for how to prepare a healthy item like quinoa - make a project out of it. Have fun with the new you. Just because you have a new job with plenty of responsibility - being your own boss - doesn't mean you can't have fun.

• Manage what you can control; accept what you cannot; and look outside the box. This is not as easy as it may sound because we often think we can control things that, in fact, we cannot, including how people respond to us or how quickly our bodies respond to diet and exercise. Progress does not happen all at once. While it makes sense to focus on what we can control, you may also consider alternative methods of living. That may include riding a bike to work rather than driving, or exploring alternative forms of spiritual healing.

• Don't be a victim! To a greater or lesser extent, we're all taught to be obedient conform to the standards set by parents, teachers and bosses. Unfortunately, for many, this passive role can shape one's identity and influence other relationships. It all starts with one's own relationship to one's self, Chervil says. As most parents and teachers will say, the best students are those who need the least help and are willing to be proactive in their own improvement. Understand that it's not others who determine what you can do; it's you!

About Lynda Chervil

Lynda Chervil is the author of "Fool's Return," http://lyndachervil.com/, a new novel that incorporates valuable life lessons in a page-turning tale that touches on technology, the green movement, and other aspects of contemporary society. She graduated from New York University with a master's degree in Integrated Marketing Communications and has extensive experience in consumer and commercial banking and has held positions in new business development, sales management and executive leadership. Chervil seeks to push the limits of established understanding by exploring alternative forms of spiritual healing, and, through creative writing, to expand the narrative of cutting-edge energy technology to promote sustainability.

Wreath-Laying at Juárez Statue and Lincoln-Romero Meeting Reenactment Strengthen 150-year Friendship Between Mexico and Illinois

CHICAGO - Governor Pat Quinn today was joined by the Governor of the State of Mexico Eruviel Ávila for a wreath-laying ceremony to honor Benito Juárez and the 150-year friendship between Illinois and Mexico. Governor Ávila has traveled to Illinois as a result of Governor Quinn's trade mission to Mexico City which took place in April 2013. This week's visit is part of Governor Quinn's commitment to strengthening relations between Illinois and Mexico.

Today the two Governors laid a wreath of red, white and green flowers - the colors of Mexico's flag - at the statue of Benito Juárez in the Plaza of the Americas on Chicago's Magnificent Mile.

"Benito Juárez transformed Mexico with his passion for freedom, vision of democracy and commitment to constitutional law," Governor Quinn said. "He was one of humanity's giants, and today we celebrate his accomplishments and his friendship with our President Lincoln."

"Benito Juárez once said, 'Law has always been my shield and my sword', which are powerful words," Governor Ávila said. "His legacy is similar to Lincoln's legacy. Both opposed slavery and tyranny. Both successfully led their nations through war. Both are rightly remembered today as inspirational heroes."

Juárez and Lincoln have often been compared - both came from humble origins, were self-taught and fought for human rights. They served as Presidents during the same period, during which they established a long-distance relationship. In 1861, Juárez dispatched his envoy - Matías Romero - to Springfield, Ill., to extend official greetings to President-elect Lincoln, the first such overture by a foreign nation.

That meeting is the subject of a unique theatrical performance at the Abraham Lincoln Presidential Library and Museum (ALPLM). On January 19, 1861, Romero met with President-elect Lincoln at Lincoln's home in Springfield. Romero delivered congratulations to Lincoln from Juárez and opened a dialogue about peace, understanding and cooperation that could be beneficial for both nations. It led to a "friendship through correspondence" between Presidents Juárez and Lincoln.

Following the wreath-laying, the two Governors will travel to Springfield for the world premiere of that performance, entitled "Of Mutual Interest: Lincoln and Mexico."

While in Springfield, the Governors will also participate in signing a Memorandum of Understanding (MOU) to promote collaboration between the state's major universities on agriculture and veterinary medicine.

Governor Quinn was the first Illinois Governor to visit Mexico in 13 years and only the fourth U.S. Governor to visit Mexico since 2005. There are now 1.6 million people in Illinois of Mexican origin, about one in eight Illinois residents. Mexico and Illinois have had a sister state relationship since 1990.

The country of Mexico is Illinois' second-largest trading partner. With sales of $8.2 billion, Illinois is the third largest agricultural exporter in the United States, and the country of Mexico is one of Illinois' strongest agricultural trading partners. Since 2010, the country of Mexico has purchased $1.9 billion in agricultural products from Illinois, including $780 million in 2012 alone, making it the state's third largest agricultural export market.

Governor Quinn has vowed to make Illinois the most welcoming state in the United States, and has often noted the friendship between Juárez and Lincoln. Last year, Governor Quinn declared March 21 as "Benito Juárez Day" across Illinois. People across Illinois are reminded of Juárez's legacy with the Benito Juárez Community Academy, the Juárez sculpture in the ALPLM and the Juárez Baseball League, one of Illinois' oldest amateur baseball clubs.

Yesterday, the two Governors cut the ribbon on the Casa de Estado de Mexico, and enjoyed a live performance of the world-famous Orquesta Sinfónica del Estado de México at Benito Juarez Community Academy in Chicago. The performance was a gift from Governor Ávila to Governor Quinn and the people of Illinois.

Governor Ávila, 45, has been the Governor of the State of Mexico since 2011, succeeding Enrique Peña Nieto, now Mexico's President. Ávila was twice elected Mayor of Ecatepec de Morelos and a deputy of the State of Mexico's Congress.

For details about Governor Ávila's state visit or the history of the 150 year friendship between Mexico and Illinois, visit 150years.Illinois.gov.

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Des Moines, February 11, 2014 –On Tuesday, February 25, at 3:00 p.m., Governor Terry E. Branstad will administer the oath of office to Court of Appeals Judge Christopher Lee McDonald in a public ceremony in the supreme court courtroom in the Judicial Branch Building, 1111 East Court Avenue, Des Moines. Judge McDonald, 39, fills the vacancy on the Iowa Court of Appeals that occurred when Chief Judge Larry Eisenhauer retired.

Judge McDonald, Des Moines, was born in Bangkok, Thailand. He earned his undergraduate degree from Grand View University in 1997 and his law degree from the University of Iowa College of Law in 2001, where he graduated with highest distinction and received Order of the Coif recognition. After graduation, he served as a law clerk to the Honorable David R. Hansen, United States Court of Appeals for the Eighth Circuit. Prior to being appointed to the Iowa Court of Appeals, Judge McDonald served as a Judge of the District Court, Fifth Judicial District of Iowa. Prior to commencing service on the bench, Judge McDonald worked in private practice in Central Iowa.

Judge McDonald is a member of the American Bar Association, Iowa State Bar Association, Polk County Bar Association, and the Iowa Judges Association.

Des Moines, February 11, 2014 ? Iowa State Court Administration has received several notices of spam email that falsely claim to be from the Iowa Judicial Branch or a court official. The emails state that a complaint was received, or court ordered restitution is due, or a trial date with the Iowa Court of Appeals is set.

The public should be aware that the emails are a scam and are not from the Iowa Judicial Branch. Persons receiving the email should not open or respond to them or click on any links in the email.

The Iowa Judicial Branch does not issue official court communications by email unless the recipient is a registered eFile user and the document is clearly identified as a Notice of Electronic Filing or Presentation. A Notice of Electronic Filing or Presentation will never ask the recipient to send money, request a social security number, direct the recipient to call a certain phone number, or advise the reader to download a document.

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Valentine's Day Isn't about Being Alone; It's about Being
Yourself, Says Self-Empowerment Entrepreneur

There's a reason Neil Sedaka's "Breaking Up is Hard to Do" became a pop classic - because it's true!

But breakups can also be a time to reflect and embark on a new chapter in your life, says Jay Ryan.

"Many people have been through a romantic heartbreak, which can be among life's biggest challenges. But being single after a committed relationship can also be a good time to rejuvenate yourself," says Ryan, co-founder of breakupgems.com, an online retailer specializing in breakup and divorce jewelry that "celebrates new beginnings."

"We cater to the growing number of people looking for meaningful ways to bring closure to their past and move forward with confidence," he says.

For those who've recently experienced a split, Ryan shares several ways to turn your breakup into a makeover -- a "breakover."

• Empower yourself with the gift of health. It's almost a cliché that exes lose weight after splitting up; some lose their appetite due to melancholy and some are motivated to look and feel better with exercise and dieting. Don't punish yourself with spartan regimens, Ryan advises. Eat nutritious foods and train sensibly.

• Treat yourself to a new wardrobe. Clothing can be the bearers of painful reminders, like the sweater he or she got you last year. Consider freshening up your style with new clothes - hey, you'll probably need them anyway with all that exercise. A new wardrobe can serve as a healthy reminder of the new you.

• Be proactive with your reading. There are many genres of self-help literature, from spiritual to academic. But don't limit yourself to nonfiction; classic literature not only gives you a great education, it also helps readers increase empathy and better understand emotional complexity.

• Consider a healthy reminder of the new you. It's a tradition in our society to commemorate a romantic union or celebration with jewelry. Your breakup may likewise be a blessing that allows you to grow as an individual. Consider a ring or other piece of jewelry that will not only mark this milestone but be a personal reminder of your transformation and new beginning.

• Travel adds perspective on a new journey. Whether or not you realize it, a breakup is the beginning of a new life trajectory. Travel - whether it's time for a change of domestic scenery or a vacation - perfectly symbolizes a new journey. Overcoming a painful separation requires an outside perspective, which is often gained through travel.

• Invite friends over for a dinner party. The depression that is liable to ensue after a breakup often leads to isolation, but that is when you most need your friends! Why not host a breakup party? Rather than blowing it out with a large group of people, which may include strangers, keep it simple with intimate friends you can trust.

About Jay Ryan

Jay Ryan is the co-founder of BreakupGems.com, an online retailer that specializes in fine breakup and divorce jewelry. Each piece in the collection conveys an empowering message of freedom and renewal with designs that are both stylish and meaningful for anyone overcoming a recent breakup or simply celebrating happy singlehood.

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