If you've ever been told that you cannot do something, but you refuse to give up on your dream, you have something in common with Chalky White.

After repeatedly failing to achieve full ski instructor certification in the United Kingdom, then being repeatedly denied entry into another certification program, White eventually accomplished his goal of being a world-class ski instructor. He's been inspiring confidence in skiers of all levels for more than three decades.

"Adversity is simply the flipside of success; I was told that I had the 'wrong body shape' for skiing and I experienced three consecutive failures at achieving the full British certification," says Chalky, who flew across the world to New Zealand for training and certification there. Denied entry, his tenacity finally convinced the coach to take him on.

"The negativity I'd experienced in following my dreams only served to increase my determination. Also, I believe the difficulty I had helped me be far more empathetic as an instructor."

Chalky is the author of Amazon's bestselling "The 7 Secrets of Skiing." The enormous response to the how-to book enabled him to craft a new program for business professionals and celebrities, called Ski the World with Chalky White, (www.the7secretsofskiing.com).

He discusses lessons in skiing, both for the slopes and in life.

•  Keep in mind the "calculated risk factor." Of course, giving your all can be scary, because no matter how much you invest in time, effort and money, there's no guarantee it will work. And, even for experienced skiers, standing at the top of a big, steep hill with the intention of throwing your body down it - albeit with the intention of control - can be nerve-racking.

"That's where preparation and systematic training comes in," Chalky says. "You're not simply hurling yourself down the mountain; you're taking a calculated risk, estimating that your training and ability to stay calm and focused will serve your purpose. The same goes with any risk you take in life."

•  Always show up first. Whether you're the most gifted person in your field of passion or, like Chalky, you have the "wrong body shape," be so enthusiastic about learning and working, you're always the first one on the slope. Never take your talent or your experience for granted. The always-show-up-first mentality keeps you humble, hungry and sharp.

"I was extremely fortunate to have a ski instructor trainer in Peter Curtis; after I'd finally achieved my dream of becoming a fully certified instructor, he said to me, 'Congratulations, now go and learn to ski,' " Chalky says. "Initially taken aback at such a key juncture in my life and career, the simple command set me on the path that I still follow today. With each ski season, I try eking out that little bit of improvement that helps both me and my clients."

•  Skiing is balancing on a moving platform. Simply put, skiing is balance. An efficiently poised skier who has found his or her balance can ski harder, better and longer through difficult twists and turns. That's true for skiing and an excellent metaphor for attacking the slalom of life.

"The right balance of physical and mental preparation and determination can take you pretty much anywhere you want to go," he says.

•  Never take "no" for an answer; be willing to alter your plan to achieve your goal. In order to fund his attempt to make his living as a fully certified instructor, Chalky needed money. At age 26, he left his position as a British policeman and took a job that no one wanted as an encyclopedia salesman in Germany.

"Nearly every step along the way, I wanted to quit -- from the tedious job selection process to knocking on my first German door on a cold, wet evening to continuing the position month after month," he says. "But I did it, and I did it well, which taught me the rewards of persevering through the tough stuff. I didn't say 'no,' and I've since lived the life I've wanted. Sometimes, in order to fulfill a dream, one must do things that are not part of the original plan."

About Chalky White

For many years, Chalky White has been a professional ski instructor who is highly regarded for being able to help develop balance and confidence in beginners and new insights for intermediate and advanced skiers. Through his business, Seven Secrets International Ski Services LLC, he has taught students in the Alps, New Zealand and the Rocky Mountains in Colorado, where he remains a longtime member of the esteemed Vail and Beaver Creek Ski School. Since 2011, his book, "The 7 Secrets of Skiing," (www.the7secretsofskiing.com), has been at or near the No.1 for ski books on Amazon. White is a sought-after inspirational/motivational speaker on his specialty subject and his keynote, "The Calculated Risk Factor - What a wonderful World - If you Don't Quit!"

Coupon packets for pork chops, ribs, and more, offers opportunity to bring families together

IOWA FALLS, Iowa (Nov. 25, 2014) ? Iowa service members will have a little more on their plates this holiday season, quite literally, with an unprecedented donation of coupons good for free pork from the Deb & Jeff Hansen Foundation and Iowa Select Farms. Every single service member in Iowa is receiving $28 worth of coupons good for various pork products, including ribs and bacon, through their unit readiness coordinators. In total, more than 10,800 active duty and reserve service members will be receiving the coupons, totaling $302,400 in free pork.

"Providing support to military families in Iowa is the least we can do for those on active duty and those who dedicate their time to civilian duty and the Reserves," says Jeff Hansen, president and CEO of Iowa Select Farms. "Supplying the resources for a home-cooked meal that brings their families together is our way of saying 'thank you' to the men and women who sacrifice so much of their time away from their families in order to protect our freedom."

From ribs to bacon to fresh pork, the coupon packets are redeemable at any local grocery store and provide for many meals worth or product, no matter the brand or cut.  From bacon-wrapped turkey to pork loin with cranberry, there are an endless array of holiday recipes that will be made possible with these donations.

"I'm humbled and proud to be a recipient of this gift," says SFC Larry Hingtgen, a member of Delta Company 1/133^rd Infantry. "I know that I speak for most of the men and women in uniform all over the state in saying that this is hugely appreciated. From bacon breakfasts, to our holiday gatherings and tailgating, this is a practical and hugely helpful gift. The thoughtfulness of Iowans never ceases to amaze me."

The foundation is also working on distributing the coupon packets to ROTC programs across the state. The coupons offer a great opportunity for service members to sit down with their families to share a meal during the fall months and over the holidays. On top of these coupon donations, the foundation will also continue the popular Hams for Heroes Program, which delivers fresh pork packs and smoked hams to select units and families.

WASHINGTON - The holidays can be a magical time of year, but for children who have experienced the death of a parent, sibling, or another significant person in their lives, the holiday season can be tough. It also poses challenges for still-grieving family members and caregivers around them.

"The holiday season can be particularly difficult for families, because children carry their own expectations about the holidays, as well as their own grief over the death," said Bonnie Carroll, military widow and founder of the nonprofit organization Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS). "The holidays can be full of bittersweet moments. They can also be an opportunity to honor and remember the person who died and the legacy that special person left for a child."

Since its founding in 1994 by bereaved military families, TAPS has offered comfort and care to more than 50,000 people grieving the death of someone who served in the military and their caregivers, and is a recognized expert in child bereavement. TAPS Good Grief Camps are attended by thousands of children and teens annually. TAPS offers the following tips to help families supporting a bereaved child over the holidays:

Talk with your child about the holiday season. Anticipating the holiday, especially if it's the first holiday without a family member, can be worse than the actual holiday. Talk with your child about their feelings and expectations for the holiday season. Discuss the activities your child would like to participate in or attend.

Even if your child does not talk frequently about the death, do not expect for your child to be "over it." Children grieve on their own time frame and differently from adults. Significant milestones, such as the first holiday after the loss, may cause the child's feelings about the loss to re-surface, even if the child has not talked about the death for a while.

Make holiday plans that help your child feel nurtured, emotionally safe, and comfortable. Review your plans for the holidays with your child. Spend the holidays where you and your child feel supported, nurtured and comfortable.

Encourage your child to attend holiday functions. Consider attending holiday parties and activities, especially if you and your child will be able to spend time with supportive family members and friends. Make an escape plan in case the event is more than you or your child can handle and trust your hosts to understand if you need to slip out.

Laughter, play and joy are good for your child. Children do not grieve continuously and they need to take breaks from grieving. Encourage your child to play, run and do recreational activities he or she would normally do. Clowning around and laughing (which releases endorphins into the brain) are healthy and normal for children.

Be observant about your child's emotions. Realize that familiar traditions, sights, smells and tastes, may be comforting, or may jolt emotions. Watch how your child responds to events and be ready to be supportive and comfort your child.

Comfort items that remind the child of the loved one who died may help. Allowing your child to sleep in a favorite shirt that belonged to the person who died may offer comfort. Letting your child carry a special item that reminds him or her of the person who died may help the child feel connected. Placing a photograph of the child with the person who died or from a holiday celebration in a special place, may help.

Pay attention to your child's health. It's often difficult for adults and children alike who have experienced a recent death to sleep. Make sure your child gets regular rest, eats well and drink lots of water. Holiday treats are ok, but in moderation. Bed wetting, acting out and nightmares may be signs of struggling. Talk with your medical care provider if you become concerned about your child's health.

Do not pretend your family has not experienced a loss. Let your child know that you also miss the person who died. Tell your child that you don't like that things cannot be exactly like they were before the person died, and that you love your child. Children may need to hear this in order to feel it is permissible to discuss their own feelings.

Find sustenance for the soul. Your church, synagogue, mosque, or another faith community may offer services, resources and support networks to help you and your child through the holiday season.

Talk with your child about holiday traditions and how they will be observed this year. Some children insist that holiday customs remain exactly the same each year. Discuss with your child why he or she wants to hold onto a particular tradition or custom. Do not feel that you must do something because you have always done it that way, but consider your child's feelings when making a change. Talk with your child about any changes before they occur.

Stick to daily routines when possible. The holidays tend to cause a lot of upheaval in schedules and routines. The friends your child plays with may go out of town. The daily schedule your child is accustomed to may change when schools close for the holidays. Try to keep your child on a regular bedtime routine and talk with your child about any changes.

Allow your child to remember a lost loved one through a tribute. Light a candle together at dinner time to remember the person who died. Hang an ornament on the tree that reminds the child of the loved one who died. Help your child offer a blessing at a holiday meal that honors the person who died. Create a picture or collage with your child, display a favorite photograph in your home, or let your child help you set a place at the dinner table to represent the loved one who died.

Help your child write a letter to the person who died that honors the legacy that person gave the child. Help your child write a letter to the person they love who died thanking him or her for the gifts the person gave to the child, the special things they would do together and expressing how the child feels about the person. Some children may want to mail their letter to the person, take the letter to the cemetery or "send it to heaven" on a helium-filled balloon.

Honor the lost loved one through a gift. Encourage your child to draw pictures or create gifts for others that are inspired by the memories of the person who died. Help your child make a donation to a charity or cause the loved one cared about. Consider volunteering as a family at the charity.

Use family connections to help your child. Connections with other family members can help your child feel comforted, loved and safe. These family connections can also help you as a parent or caregiver cope with the holidays. Encourage your child to build ties with other family members, but you may need to remain nearby to reassure your child with your presence.

For more tips on dealing with grief during the holidays, go to the TAPS website at www.taps.org and look for our holiday survival guide.

About TAPS
The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) is the national organization providing compassionate care for the families of America's fallen military heroes and has offered support to more than 50,000 surviving family members of our fallen military and their caregivers since 1994. TAPS provides peer-based emotional support, grief and trauma resources, grief seminars and retreats for adults, Good Grief Camps for children, case work assistance, connections to community-based care, online and in-person support groups and a 24/7 resource and information helpline for all who have been affected by a death in the Armed Forces. Services are provided free of charge. For more information go to www.taps.org or call the toll-free TAPS resource and information helpline at 1.800.959.TAPS (8277).

Davenport, IA:   We all want to be happy, but how do we do this?  Happiness is a State of Mind therefore we need to train our mind to develop and maintain positive states of mind in order to feel happy.  Meditation is the main method for training the mind.  Lamirm Kadampa Buddhist Center will present a guided Meditation Retreat in Davenport Iowa, Saturday December 6^th- Thursday, December 11^th.  This Meditation Retreat will be based on Kadam Lamrim meditations presented in How to Understand The Mind by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso.

In this Meditation Retreat learn simple yet profound meditations and bring real benefit to yourself and others.  There will be an introduction to the Retreat on Saturday, December 6^th at 10am. Then four to six one-hour guided meditation sessions each day through Thursday, December 11^th.  People can attend one session, one day or the entire retreat.

"Meditation increases our peace of mind and provides practical methods to overcome negativity and to solve our daily problems," state Joe Gauthier, Resident Teacher at Lamrim Kadampa Buddhist Center, who will be guiding the Retreat. "Meditating on the virtuous objects found in Kadam Lamrim leads to a lasting state of joy, independent of external conditions.

Each Meditation session presents practical ways to keep our mind positive and energized while engaging in daily activities.   During the breaks between sessions you are welcome to stay and enjoy the peaceful environment and have tea, coffee and light snacks in the community room.  You may wish to bring a packed lunch/dinner. Lamrim Center is within walking distance of the Mississippi River Walk and many local eateries and a vegetarian coffee house.

This is an ideal first retreat for beginners and as well as experienced practitioners.

The Meditation Retreat is open to everyone and is suitable for both beginners and advanced meditators.  Both chairs and cushions will be available for use during the meditation sessions. Everyone is welcome to attend this retreat! Drop-In, no registration needed.

Date:  Saturday December 6th- Thursday December 11th.

Cost:                     $3/session, $10/day, or $30/entire retreat, (Free with Monthly Class Meditation Card)

Location:             Lamrim Kadampa Buddhist Center, 502 ½ W. 3rd Street, Davenport, IA

(Entrance on Scott Street)
For more information or to register call 563-322-1600 or www.meditateiniowa.org

Meditation Retreat SCHEDULE

Saturday December 6, 2104
Introduction 10am-11am
Session 1:   12-1pm,      Session 2: 3-4pm,

Session 3:   5-6 pm        Session 4:    8-9pm

Sunday December 7, 2104
Session 1:  8-9am,   Session 2: 10-11am,   Session 3: 1-2pm

Session 4:    3-4pm,  Session 5: 6-7pm,  Session 6:  8-9pm

Monday December 8, 2104
Session 1:  8-9am,   Session 2: 10-11am,   Session 3:  1-2pm

Session 4: 3-4pm,  Session 5:  6-7pm,  Session 6:  8-9pm

Tuesday  December 9, 2104
Session 1: 8-9am          Session 2:   10-11am

Session 3:    1-2pm           Session 4: 3-4pm

Wednesday December 10, 2104
Session 1: 8-9am          Session 2:   10-11am

Session 3:    1-2pm           Session 4: 3-4pm

Thursday December 11, 2104
Session 1: 8-9am          Session 2:   10-11am

Session 3:    1-2pm           Session 4: 3-4pm

About Lamrim Kadampa Buddhist Center:

Lamrim Kadampa Buddhist Center was founded in 2005 under the guidance of Geshe Kelsang Gyatso; Internationally renowned Buddhist meditation master and scholar.  Lamrim Kadampa Buddhist Center is a member of the New Kadampa Tradition-International Kadampa Buddhist Union, a worldwide network of Buddhist Centers that are located in over 40 different countries.

The purpose of Lamrim Kadampa Buddhist Center is to help people learn practical methods on how to solve their daily problems and to live a happy and meaningful life. Lamrim Center offers meditation classes, day courses, retreats, chanted prayers and a chance to learn more about the Buddhist way of life. The classes and courses are designed to help those who wish to deepen their understanding of basic Buddhist thought and practice, as well as for those who simply wish to start a meditation practice or to meditate in a group setting.

About the Day Course Teacher:

Joe Gauthier is a Buddhist teacher in the New Kadampa Tradition. He is currently the Resident Teacher at Lamrim Kadampa Buddhist Center in Davenport, Iowa.  Gauthier has been studying and practicing Buddhist meditation for over 20 years under the compassionate guidance of his Spiritual Guide, Venerable Geshe Kelsang Gyatso. Before coming to Iowa, he studied and taught in several locations throughout the world, including Manjushri Centre in England and at Buddhist Centers in Taiwan, Holland and Madison, Wisconsin.