Veteran Teacher Shares Tips for Motivating Them to Tackle
the Hard Stuff

By now, it has become apparent to academics, administrators, parents and teachers that, in general, boys are underperforming in school, says Edmond J. Dixon, Ph.D, a veteran educator and international expert who offers enhanced teaching techniques for boys.

And it may get worse, he says.

It will take some creativity to teach some elements of Common Core, the educational initiative set to be implemented throughout most of the United States, in a way that's conducive to how most boys best learn, Dixon says.

Common Core has been criticized by educators and other experts as demanding standards that are static, arbitrary and generally antithetical to creativity and innovation. Yet initial results in Kentucky, the first state to use the program, have been positive. The state's graduation rate increased 6 percent from 2010 to 2013, and the percentage of college-ready students increased 20 percent.

"Any parent or teacher who wants a boy to be successful with Common Core must understand two crucial ideas: motivated engagement and discretionary effort," says Dixon, who has more than three decades experience as a teacher, is a parent of boys, and is the author of "Helping Boys Learn: Six Secrets for Your Son's Success in School," (HelpingBoysLearn.com), which features tailored editions for parents and teachers.

Because the new curriculum is designed to improve critical thinking, which requires a deep understanding of the material, boys must be both motivated and deeply engaged to learn, he says. That's what it will take for them to independently put in the necessary hard work involved in learning - discretionary effort - without nagging, he says.

"Only by doing this will they be able to meet the new learning requirements; we are already seeing the negative consequences of not doing this with boys, and I fear it will just get worse," says Dixon, adding that his approach inspires a boy's motivated engagement.

He offers two real-life examples that reveal volumes about how the male brain works:

• Boys need a worthy challenge: Both NBA greats, who have long since been great friends, are eager to talk about their former rival. Both say that they simply would not have had the same legendary career without the rivalry; it made them better. When Johnson left the NBA, Bird said he just wasn't as interested in the game.

The male brain responds to a challenge it deem worthy. A student, who daydreams during algebra class and appears lazy, may also pour attention and effort into mastering a skateboarding trick. Constructing a challenge for the male student will do wonders to engage his learning.

•   Boys crave legitimacy. Think about all the colleges in the United States; now imagine trying to craft an NFL playoff-style system that fairly selects the No.1 college football team. Does it seem impossible? Aren't there too many teams?

The NCAA has been trying to figure out a system for establishing a legitimate No. 1 team for decades, and it's finally going to implement one next season. Whether or not it'll work, the effort put into such an endeavor has been considerable. Why so much time and energy for a game?

Because the male brain craves legitimacy; boys will only agree that something is meaningful or valuable if there is a valid process for establishing that value. In the classroom, helping boys understand why and how learning a concept, skill or calculation has value for them will go a long way toward motivating them to learn.

About Dr. Edmond J. Dixon

A pioneer in the field of cognitive-kinesthetics for learning, Edmond J. Dixon, Ph.D., is a human development specialist with more than 30 years of experience as a teacher, administrator, writer, researcher - and parent of boys. He is the founder of the KEEN Differentiated Learning Group, an organization dedicated to helping struggling learners, and the creator of KEEN 5X, a series of strategies for classroom engagement and learning that were have been used with more than 50,000 students and teachers. His previous books, "KEEN For Learning" and "Literacy Through Drama," have been used by educators to improve classroom learning. A dynamic and popular presenter, he has spoken throughout North America on education and human development topics. .

SPRINGFIELD - Lieutenant Governor Sheila Simon will discuss pending state and federal legislation that could improve education equity and local food access in rural Illinois Thursday at a meeting of the Governor's Rural Affairs Council (GRAC).

State Sen. Andy Manar (D-Bunker Hill) will also discuss progress of the Education Funding Advisory Committee, which is examining the state's current education funding system and propose a system that provides adequate, equitable, transparent, and accountable distribution of funds to school districts that will prepare students for achievement and success after high school. Simon, who serves as the state's point person on education reform, testified before the committee this week regarding inequities that often hamper rural school districts in Illinois.

A representative of Rep. Rodney Davis (R-Ill.), a member of the 2013 Farm Bill Conference Committee, will provide a status report regarding negotiations of the federal farm bill, which includes funding for the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP). Simon has signed on to two letters to Congress in recent months asking that SNAP and farmers market incentives be protected from devastating cuts.

DATE: Thursday, Jan. 16

TIME: 10 a.m.

LOCATION: Stratton Office Building, Room 413, Springfield

NOTE: Media availability following meeting.

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Senate Caucus on International Narcotics Control Hearing

"Future U.S. Counternarcotics Efforts in Afghanistan"

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Prepared Statement of Co-Chairman Chuck Grassley of Iowa

Madam Chairman, thank you for holding this hearing to follow-up on our two previous hearings about counter-narcotics programs in Afghanistan.  This discussion is especially timely because the drawdown of our troops this year will significantly impact these programs.  Today's hearing gives us the opportunity to hear from the Obama Administration about the future of these programs going forward.

 

Our efforts in this area are highly dependent on the security that our military provides.  Therefore, I've long been concerned that if our troops were withdrawn from Afghanistan too abruptly or without the proper planning, the United States could forfeit the progress it has made against the drug trade there.

 

Indeed, in July of 2010, Chairman Feinstein and I released a bipartisan Caucus report regarding the U.S. counter-narcotics strategy in Afghanistan.  In the report, we recommended that the key agencies involved in counter-narcotics "devise a comprehensive strategy for continued operational effectiveness after the departure of U.S. troops."

 

At the time of our hearing in 2011, the Obama Administration was already beginning to reduce the number of troops in Afghanistan.  I raised concerns then that we could lose our counter-narcotics successes in the rush to reduce our presence.

 

Indeed, we are already seeing some of our progress begin to erode.  For example, the United Nations recently reported that in 2013, poppy cultivation skyrocketed to 209,000 hectares, a 36 percent increase from 2012.  And the number of provinces considered poppy-free declined in both 2012 and 2013 after rising steadily for years.

 

Additionally, the Obama Administration's failure to finalize a Bilateral Security Agreement with the Afghan government is undoubtedly damaging our ability to plan future counter-narcotics efforts.  As we're seeing in Iraq, without such an agreement in place, the country may well descend into chaos.

 

We shouldn't forget why our troops are in Afghanistan in the first place.  Narcotics trafficking in Afghanistan helped fuel a mix of corruption, organized crime, and instability that helped lead to the rise of the Taliban.  And the Taliban then provided a safe haven from which al-Qaeda launched the September 11th attacks.  Counter-narcotics efforts in Afghanistan play a role in ensuring that terrorist organizations cannot use the country as a base from which to threaten the United States in the future.

 

As we reduce the number of troops in Afghanistan, we need to focus our efforts on continuing to build the capabilities of the Afghan military, police, and courts.  We also need to ensure that our law enforcement agencies, such as the DEA, will still be allowed to work alongside Afghan personnel to conduct operations and investigations.

 

We should also prioritize our efforts to combat the money laundering and terrorist financing associated with the proceeds of narcotics exported from Afghanistan.  In 2012, the estimated value of Afghan opiates before export was almost $2 billion.  These funds support both the insurgency against the Afghan government as well as criminal and terrorist activities directed at the United States.

 

It is critical that plans are in place to deal with how counter-narcotics efforts will continue absent the security provided by the U.S. military.   As the Drug Caucus recommended in our July 2010 report, I strongly encourage the Administration to provide Congress with a comprehensive, multi-agency, workable strategy to do so.

 

I look forward to hearing from the witnesses today regarding the status of the counter-narcotics plans of their individual agencies, as well as their concerns as we reduce our military footprint in Afghanistan.  I'm also interested in being updated about what's working and what's not working in our current efforts to combat drug trafficking in Afghanistan.

 

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Whether It's the Lottery or an Inheritance, a Payout Over Time Beats
Taking the Money & Running, Expert Says

If current trends continue, 2014 will be the year of mega lottery jackpots and generous (if not millionaire-making) inheritances, says Ted Bernstein, (www.lifeinsuranceconcepts.com), a longtime life insurance consumer advocate.

Five of the top six biggest lottery jackpots in the United States occurred in 2013 - from  No. 2, the $648 million Mega Millions jackpot before Christmas,to No. 6, a $399.4 million Powerball pot.

Talk about striking it rich!

Odds are slightly better that you'll claim a nice inheritance, whether it's an estate or life insurance benefits, Bernstein says.

"American retirees plan to leave their beneficiaries some of the biggest estates in the world," he says, citing a recent HSBC survey, the Future of Retirement Report. "A fifth of those polled will leave legacies of more than $390,000."

Most who strike it richin the lottery - 98 percent, according to some experts - opt for a lump-sum cash payout versus guaranteed checks over 30 years, Bernstein says.

"Those who receive life insurance benefits almost always opt for the big cash up front, too," he says. "But in both cases, you're almost always better off financially if you choose the payout over the lump sum."

Here's why:

• An estimated 70 percent of people who experience a sudden financial windfall are broke within a few years. That's according to the non-profit National Endowment for Financial Education, Bernstein says. "First, you have the unexpected emotions that go along with suddenly having more money than you ever expected," he says. "People react in unpredictable ways - and that leads to a lot of bad decision-making.

"Second, people want control of the money, even if they have zero experience managing large finances. That's a recipe for disaster!"

Having a guaranteed check from a life insurance company provides valuable safeguards, he says.

• Generally, you'll get more money if it's paid to you over time. "If lottery and life insurance benefits are paid over time or by installment, they will pay more as the money is allowed time to grow," Bernstein says.

For a $400 million win, you'd get only $223.6 million if you took the lump sum option. You'll get the full $400 million only if you choose deferred payments, he says.

If you own a life insurance policy, you can now opt to purchase a policy that instructs the insurance company to pay the proceeds over time, and your beneficiaries may get more because of guaranteed interest, he says.

"Since the insurance company knows it will have more time to pay, you can either choose to pay a lower premium or get up to 50 percent more in face value for the same premium."

• The tax hit - lump sum versus checks over time. In most cases, for a huge lottery jackpot, you can expect to pay the highest federal income tax rate, which is 39.6 percent in 2014 after the first $450,000 or so for a married couple filing jointly.

"On the $400 million jackpot, you'll have a net $135.1 million after federal income taxes," Bernstein says. "If you take the win in checks over 30 years, you'll have $242.9 million after federal taxes."

With life insurance benefits, there are some caveats, but generally you won't pay taxes on the lump sum. "If you take the benefit over time, you won't pay tax on the life insurance portion, but you will on the excess interest. You still come out ahead because you'll have more money over time!" he says.

Almost any way you slice it, if you have a choice of taking your windfall in a lump sum versus deferred payment, you're safer and potentially better off opting for the latter, Bernstein says.

"If the payments are spread over time, you don't have to worry that it won't be there 20 years from now," he says. "It's not like the stock market - the payments are guaranteed."

About Ted Bernstein

Ted Bernstein is a third-generation life insurance specialist with decades of speaking out and advocating for changes on behalf of consumers. He was the first to introduce life insurance without commissions, or "no-load" life insurance, in the mid-1980s and developed the Installment Life Option in response to concerns expressed by his clients. Bernstein is a nationally recognized expert in alternative distribution strategies and life insurance product development. In the late 1980s, he launched the first fee-based Life Insurance Policy Audit and Review service for Trust companies and life insurance fiduciaries.  He is a member of the Association for Advanced Life Underwriting.

Omnibus spending bill restores across the board cuts to Senior Nutrition Programs

 

Washington, D.C. - Congressman Dave Loebsack today announced that the omnibus appropriations bill that was recently introduced contains funding to reverse the across the board cuts, known as sequestration, for Senior Nutrition Programs. Meals on Wheels and other nutrition assistance programs faced a $46 million cut in the past year due to sequestration. The spending bill will restore funding to the pre-sequester level.

Loebsack spearheaded efforts in the House of Representatives to secure this restoration of funding for Senior Nutrition Programs. He led a bipartisan group of nearly 50 members in urging the Budget Conference Committee to reverse the harmful sequestration related cuts and reinstate the lifeline to our elderly population.

"Millions of Americans depend on the lifeline these meals provide. The across the board cuts have had a direct impact on the well-being of our most vulnerable, frail and isolated seniors," said Congressman Dave Loebsack. "I was proud to spearhead this effort and pleased to see that these cuts were restored. We have to continue to meet the needs of our aging population and provide this important assistance so seniors can live with independence and dignity."

"Due in large part to Congressman Loebsack's tireless efforts to lead and advocate for our nation's most vulnerable and hungry seniors, the devastating sequester cuts to Older Americans Act Nutrition Programs may soon be fully restored," said Ellie Hollander, President and CEO of the Meals On Wheels Association of America "We are immensely grateful to the Congressman for being a champion for senior nutrition at a time when the need has never been greater, and for recognizing that Meals on Wheels not only improves lives and but it saves taxpayer dollars."

The text of the bipartisan letter can be found here.

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Des Moines, January 14, 2014? On Wednesday, January 15, 2014, at 10 a.m., in the House Chambers of the Iowa State Capitol, Chief Justice Mark Cady of the Iowa Supreme Court will address a joint convention of the General Assembly on the State of the Judiciary.

 

Chief Justice Cady will recognize the critical role of the cooperation and support from Governor Branstad and the Iowa Legislature in helping make the Iowa court system the best, most advanced, and the most responsive court system in the nation. The chief justice will highlight the progress the Iowa Judicial Branch has made in the last year on its priorities of protecting Iowa's children, providing full-time access to justice, operating an efficient and full service court system, providing faster and less costly resolution of legal disputes, continuing openness and transparency of the courts, and providing fair and impartial justice for all.

 

Live video will be streamed on the Iowa Legislature website beginning at 10:00 a.m. To stream the video, go to  https://www.legis.iowa.gov/chambers

 

Members of the media may obtain advance copies of the speech January 15, 2014, at 8:30 a.m., in the supreme court courtroom at the Capitol. The message will be posted on the Iowa Judicial Branch website www.iowacourts.gov at 10:45 a.m.

 

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We've seen a lot of talk recently about the proposed gas tax hike. In farm country, agribusiness is concerned about rural bridges in decay - bridges that might see a couple dozen cars a day. In suburbia, developers are worried that one of their main urban sprawl cash cows might dry up. And of course, the road construction lobby is just drooling to get more money to lay asphalt and concrete anywhere and everywhere.

Yet what about reality? Is a car-centric transportation system what's needed for the 21st century? For one thing, more roads mean more cars, more greenhouse gas emissions, and more climate change. Furthermore, as people drive less, it makes sense for the public investment to shift. And even as Governor Branstad and his Iowa House buddies deep-six a paltry sum for passenger rail, I predict they'll have no problem justifying truckloads of cash for highways.

And I would not be surprised to see the debate shift from a gas tax hike to a sales tax hike, thus making those of us who use the roads the least (i.e., low-income Iowans) pay for the desired "improvements."

See my additional comments in today's Register online, and tune-in tonight, Monday, for more talk on this topic. Your views welcome, too, at (855) 244-0077.

Tuesday, we talk with Scott Warner of Corazon Coffee Roasters about the debate over what it means to be "fair trade."

Wednesday, we talk with Harold Hedelman about another tool for folks wanting to do more about the climate crisis. Harold talks about the Natural Resources Defense Council's upcoming Citizens Advocate training in Des Moines. (See Events page for details.)

Thursday, State Rep. Dan Kelley is back on the hill - and back in the studio with us for an update on the first week of legislative action . . . or inaction, as some are predicting.

Join the conversation live Monday-Thursday from 6:00-6:30 pm. Listen and watch online at www.fallonforum.com. Call-in at (855) 244-0077 to add your voice to the dialogue. Podcasts available after the program. And catch the Fallon Forum on KHOI 89.1 (Ames) Wednesdays at 4:00 pm and KPVL 89.1 (Postville) Wednesdays at 7:00 pm.

Thanks! - Ed

Floor Speech by Senator Chuck Grassley on How the Senate Should Work

Delivered Monday, January 13, 2014

Senator McConnell has made a very important call to restore the Senate as the great deliberative body it was designed to be.

I would like to continue to add my voice to that call and expand on some observations I have made previously before the Senate.

The U.S. Senate is a unique body designed with a unique purpose in mind.

In Federalist Paper 62, attributed to the Father of the Constitution, James Madison, the unique role of the U.S. Senate is explained:

"The necessity of a senate is not less indicated by the propensity of all single and numerous assemblies to yield to the impulse of sudden and violent passions, and to be seduced by factious leaders into intemperate and pernicious resolutions."

When Madison talks about "factious leaders" and "intemperate and pernicious resolutions" he basically means what we call partisanship and the "my way or the highway" approach to legislating that is all too common these days.

What might come as a shock to anyone who has followed the United States Senate lately is the fact that the Senate was specifically designed to check partisan passions and ensure that Americans of all stripes are fairly represented though a deliberative process.

Clearly the Senate is not fulfilling the role the Framers of the Constitution intended.

To find out what went wrong, we first have to examine how the Senate was supposed to function.

About this propensity of legislatures to be dominated by factious leaders acting intemperately, Madison goes on to say:

"Examples on this subject might be cited without number; and from proceedings within the United States, as well as from the history of other nations."

Note that in advocating for the creation of a Senate to counter this negative tendency, Madison references examples from proceedings within the United States.

Many state legislatures in the early days of our Republic were unicameral with frequent elections and weak executives.

This led to many instances where a temporary majority faction would gain control and quickly pass legislation that advantaged the majority at the expense of the minority.

The U.S. Senate has been called the greatest deliberative body in the world because it was specifically designed to proceed at a measured pace and to guarantee the rights of the minority party.

As James Madison wrote in Federalist Paper Number 10:

"Complaints are everywhere heard from our most considerate and virtuous citizens, equally the friends of public and private faith and of public and personal liberty, that our governments are too unstable, that the public good is disregarded in the conflicts of rival parties, and that measures are too often decided, not according to the rules of justice and the rights of the minor party, but by the superior force of an interested and overbearing majority."

What's unique about the Senate is that the rules and traditions force senators to work together to prevent an "overbearing majority" from steamrolling the minority party.

Because the rules of the Senate are built around consensus, as opposed to the House of Representatives where the majority party dominates, it forces senators of all parties to listen to each other and work together.

At least that was true for most of my time in the Senate.

That has changed in recent years.

If anyone wonders why the tone in Washington has become so heated recently, the loss of the Senate as a deliberative body is certainly a big factor.

There's an apocryphal story, that may or may not be historically accurate, but which certainly depicts how the Senate was intended to function.

The story goes that when Jefferson returned from France where he was serving during the Constitutional Convention, he asked George Washington why the Senate had been created.

Washington replied by asking Jefferson "Why did you pour that tea into your saucer?"

"To cool it," said Jefferson.

"Even so," responded Washington, "we pour legislation into the senatorial saucer to cool it."

In the House of Representatives, the Rules Committee sets out the terms of debate for each bill.

If you want to offer an amendment in the House, you have to go hat in hand to the Rules Committee and ask permission.

If the House leadership doesn't like your amendment, you're out of luck.

By contrast, the Senate has a tradition of allowing extensive debate and amendments by any senator without prior approval by anybody.

However, that tradition has gone out the window under the current majority leadership.

We have seen an unprecedented abuse of cloture motions to cut off the deliberative process paired with a tactic called "filling the tree" to block amendments being considered.

The Senate Majority Leader has effectively become a one-man version of the House Rules Committee, dictating what amendments will be debated and which ones will never see the light of day.

He has done so again on the unemployment bill currently before the Senate.

In fact, he's been quite unashamed about saying that he is not going to allow any amendments.

This strips the ability of individual senators to effectively represent their state, regardless of party.

Blocking amendments also virtually guarantees that any legislation the Senate votes on will be more partisan in nature, violating the very purpose of the Senate according to James Madison.

By empowering the majority leader at the expense of individual senators, the people of the 50 states lose their voice in the Senate and party leaders get their way instead.

The people of Iowa sent me to the United States Senate to represent them, not to simply vote up or down on a purely partisan agenda dictated by the Majority Leader.

Everyone complains about the lack of bipartisanship these days, but there is no opportunity for individual senators to work together across the aisle when legislation is drafted on a partisan basis and amendments are blocked.

Bipartisanship requires giving individual senators a voice, regardless of party.

That's the only way to get things done in the Senate.

In the last decade, when I was Chairman of the Finance Committee, and Republicans controlled the Senate, we wanted to actually get things done.

In order for that to happen, we knew we had to accommodate the minority.

We had to have patience, humility, and respect for the minority, attributes that don't exist on the other side anymore.

And we had some major bipartisan accomplishments, from the largest tax cut in history to a Medicare prescription drug program to numerous trade agreements.

Those kind of major bills don't happen anymore.

The Senate rules provide that any senator may offer an amendment regardless of party affiliation.

Each senator represents hundreds of thousands to millions of Americans and each has an individual right to offer amendments for consideration.

The principle here isn't about political parties having their say, but duly elected senators participating in the legislative process.

Again, as part of our duty to represent the citizens of our respective states, each senator has an individual right to offer amendments.

This right cannot be outsourced to party leaders.

The longstanding tradition of the Senate is that members of the minority party, as well as rank and file members of the majority party, have an opportunity to offer amendments for a vote by the Senate.

The now routine practice of "filling the tree" to block amendments has been a major factor in the destruction on the Senate as a deliberative body.

This is usually combined with filing cloture to cut off further consideration of a bill, which has occurred to a truly unprecedented extent.

In a deliberative body, debate and amendments are essential so cloture should be rare and the abuse of cloture strikes to the very heart of the how the Senate is intended to operate.

It is important to note that the majority leader has tried to pass off the cloture motions he has filed, which are attempts by the majority party to silence the minority party, as Republican filibusters.

There seems to have been a concerted attempt to confuse cloture motions with filibusters but the Washington Post Fact Checker has caught the majority leader in this distortion, giving his claim of unprecedented Republican filibusters Two Pinocchios.

In fact, a report by the nonpartisan Congressional Research Service called "Cloture Attempts on Nominations: Data and Historical Development" by Richard S. Beth contains an entire section titled, "Cloture Motions Do Not Correspond with Filibusters."

The abuse of cloture, often combined with the blocking of amendments, prevents all Senators from doing what they were sent here to do, not just members of the minority party.

And, it's gotten even worse.

Even where the majority leader has decided he's going to be open to amendments, he has created, out of whole cloth, new restrictions to limit senators' rights.

First, he normally only opens up the amendment process if there's an agreement to limit amendments.

And, this is usually only a handful or so.

Then, he has magically determined that only "germane" or "relevant" amendments can be considered.

Of course, nowhere do the Senate rules require amendments to be germane, other than post cloture.

Senators elected in the last few years appear to be ignorant of this fact.

You'll hear some senators here argue against an amendment saying it's non-germane or non-relevant.

They've totally fallen for the majority leader's creative rulemaking, thus giving up one of their rights as a senator with which to represent their state.

I can't count how many non-germane or non-relevant amendments I had to allow votes on when I processed bills when Republicans were in charge.

They were usually tough, political votes, but we took them because we wanted to get things done.

You don't see that nowadays.

The current majority avoids tough votes at all costs.

And that's why they don't get much done.

The American people sent us here to represent them.

That means voting, not avoiding tough votes.

We sometimes hear that this is a question of majority rule versus minority obstruction.

Again, that ignores that each senator is elected to represent their state, not simply to be an agent of their party.

There are policies that have majority support in the Senate that have been denied a vote.

What happened during Senate debate on the budget resolution seems to prove that point.

The special rules for the Budget Resolution limit debate, so it can't be filibustered, but allow for unlimited amendments.

A Republican amendment to the Senate Budget Resolution in support of repealing the tax on life-saving medical devices in President Obama's health care law passed by an overwhelming 79 to 20, with more than half of Democrats voting with Republicans, rather than their party leader.

A Republican amendment in support of approval of the Keystone XL Pipeline to bring oil from Canada passed 62 to 37.

Votes like these that split the Democrats and hand a win to Republicans are exactly what the majority leader has been trying to avoid by blocking amendments.

That's why the Senate didn't take up a budget resolution for more than three years.

Until we put an end to the abuse of cloture and the blocking of amendments, the Senate cannot function as the Framers intended.

We must bring back the Senate as a deliberative body.

Our politics today desperately need the cooling saucer of the Senate.

The action by the majority leader to make it easier to consider nominations on a purely partisan basis went in the wrong direction.

In the face of bipartisan opposition and with no Republican votes, the so called "nuclear option" established a precedent effectively overruling the rules on the books.

A better move would be for the Senate to establish the precedent that filling the tree and abusing cloture to block a full amendment process is illegitimate.

It's time to restore the Senate so it can fulfill its Constitutional role.

Senator McConnell has made a thoughtful and well-reasoned appeal and I hope my colleagues will listen for the sake of this institution and the country as a whole.

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What Worked in the Old Days Still Works Today, Says Award-Winning Author

Have you ever wondered how members of the same family, from aunts, uncles and cousins to siblings born of the same parents and raised in the same household, can be so very different?

"We see it in every family - Grandma's so easygoing and her son be so strict; Mom's a zany beatnik and her sister's a corporate v.p. Anyone with brothers and sisters will even see it within their own sibling group," says Lynn Shafer, award-winning author of "Stories from Brooklyn: Ancient Voices, Ritual Chants," (www.jo-anbooks.com), a timeless look at the interplay of disparate members of an extended 1940s family.

A ground-breaking study by researcher Robert Plomin in the 1980s is still the preeminent resource for psychologists seeking to understand personality diversity within families.  Even among siblings, the study showed, while physical traits may be very similar, personalities can be as varied as random individuals from the general population.

"Expand that to the extended family, including the vast non-traditional extended families we see today, and you're likely to see more differences than similarities," says Shafer. "Still, many of these families are tight-knit and cohesive. They serve as an inspirational example for humanity as a whole. Despite a union of very different people, we can all love, learn and grow together."

How can you build a strong family? Shafer shares timeless tips:

• Establish a solid foundation based on shared values. It's no secret that very religious families tend to be close-knit and strong. Why? "Because religion provides a structured means of sharing beliefs and values, a process that begins in infancy, when babies are taken to worship services and undergo the rituals that mark their membership in the religion," Shafer says.  While fewer American families are religion-focused than were in decades past, they can all still strive to emphasize the importance of family values and their role in reuniting every family member. Creating rituals and traditions are one way to emphasize values.

• Make your family history a story to celebrate. The story about how brave Uncle Joe once rescued a dog from a well; the singing talents of the three great aunts who performed at county fairs as little girls; the one-cheek dimple that is the family hallmark -- these are the stories that make your family special. "It's not about memorizing the family tree, but about ensuring children know that they are part of something greater than themselves - and that is both a privilege and a responsibility," Shafer says. A child who is constantly reminded, with fondness, that she's the spitting image of wonderful Aunt Bessie will feel a bond with Aunt Bessie - even if she's bee gone for decades.

• Commit to attending, or hosting, family gatherings. Often, the places for sharing those stories are family gatherings - weddings and funerals, holidays and anniversaries. "It may be a question of the chicken or the egg," Shafer says. "Strong families tend to have many shared family stories. Strong families also tend to gather together frequently - and that's where those stories are most often shared." Family gatherings are also a good place for family members with very different personalities to learn to find common ground and practice getting along for the sake of everyone at the special event.  "Imagine what a more peaceful world it would be if we were all forced to play nicely with our obnoxious cousin as children!" Shafer says.

About Lynn Shafer

Lynn Shafer is a Brooklyn native and a graduate of Brooklyn College. A veteran English teacher in New York City schools, she has utilized oral history to create a body of work that can be read aloud. The story "Ancient Voices, Ritual Chants" was runner-up in the fiction category of the Pirate's Alley Faulkner Society annual competition in 1995 for previously unpublished work, portions of which she has read aloud at the prestigious 92 Street Y in Manhattan. She has also written and performed poetry at the Truro Center for the Arts on Cape Cod, where she attended workshops for many years. "Stories from Brooklyn" is published by Jo-An Books - "Books that are making history." Find it at www.jo-anbooks.com and anywhere books are sold.

3 Truths About Our Country that Support Freedom,
Civil Peace & Prosperity

In a recent CNN poll, 75 percent of respondents said U.S. House Republicans don't deserve re-election. That could bode poorly for either party next year, when all 435 House seats are up for grabs.

That's because it's likely only a small group of Americans will decide our country's future, says historian and researcher Merrilyn Richardson. Traditionally, only 40 percent of eligible voters turn out for mid-term elections on average, compared with 60 percent for presidential elections.

In the Senate, 33 seats could change, which could tip the balance of power for the subsequent six years.

"Voting is just one of the many privileges too many citizens of the United States take for granted,'' says Richardson, a former editor of Air Force Bases newspapers and author of "You ARE God: The Challenge to Achieve Christ Consciousness in the Modern Era," (www.merrilynrichardson.com). "Many do not believe the rights they have enjoyed their entire lives can be taken away from them, but they are wrong."

It takes actively involved citizens to protect our fragile democracy, Richardson says. The American origin story and its legacy are not only unique to our globe, they're nothing short of miracles and we need to advocate for what we enjoy.

She reviews three inspiring founding U.S. principles.

• The American Revolution has outlasted competing ideologies. Since 1776, many other revolutions have come and gone. That includes the Russian Revolution, which has all but disappeared and left a country with an identity crisis. The Chinese Revolution, which has morphed into something unrecognizable from its original ideology, and the Cuban Revolution, which has proven to be an unsustainable economic burden for its people. Rather than attempt to force an entire country to conform to an unrealistic ideology, the U.S. founding fathers proposed a Bill of Rights that continues to shape the history of the world.

• Individuality, free speech, the right to bear arms and religion are all protected. Enlightened, Western nations have to pay taxes to support religious institutions of which many citizens are not participants; in England it's the Church of England, in Germany it's the Catholic Church. The United States does not make anyone support any church - we can worship and financially support what we choose. This emphasis on individual rights often provides more momentum to our social movements, such as the Tea Party or Occupy Wall Street, because people can choose what they support.

• As our constitutionally guaranteed freedoms protect us, it's our duty as stewards of the Constitution to protect freedom. When people say nasty things, it's tempting for some groups to call for the censorship of one's speech. When someone does something barbaric with a gun, even more people call for severe limitations on one's right to bear arms. If living in a free society were easy, more countries would be doing it. There are many countries throughout the world that are experimenting with a free society, including some in the Middle East and North Africa. Egypt, for example, is finding out just how difficult freedom is to maintain. While terrorist groups may seek to fell the system of governing we were fortunate enough to inherit, we also need to make sure domestic efforts to chip away our liberties are not successful.

About Merrilyn Richardson

Merrilyn Richardson received a degree in journalism from Texas Tech University and was editor of Air Force Bases newspapers. At 89, she has spent decades searching for truth and found that studying spiritual subjects provides a basis for understanding our human condition. Her latest book, "You ARE God: The Challenge to Achieve Christ Consciousness in the Modern Era," is a concise glimpse of American history and other events that have affected individuals worldwide. She is a founding member of the Center for Spiritual Living in Midland, Texas. Her two previous books were "Initiation of the Master" and "The Master's Quest, an End to Terrorism."

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